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Emily
Expert September 2020

Guidance for Celebrant Friend?

Emily, on March 8, 2020 at 1:30 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 1 5

Hi all,

We're having a mutual friend be our celebrant. He's one of my friends from college and he's always had a very good way with words, and after seeing him speak at his father's funeral (he did an amazing job of balancing the gravity/ emotion of it while bringing light/ laughter in) I thought he'd be a good person for the job. I don't see him that often, maybe 2/ year - so I was thinking of setting up a dinner date or something in the next few months to discuss the details.

If you've had a "friend" celebrant - what went well/ what's the best way to describe what you're looking for when you're not really sure yourself? Did you mention stories/ anecdotes to give them inspiration?

I only know I don't want a long saga, and it would be nice if his part could give people a "flavor" for who we are - there's a lot of distant family coming that honestly might have trouble picking myself/ my partner out of a line up. lol

Cheers,

Emily


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Latest activity by Kari, on March 8, 2020 at 3:42 PM
  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    I’d look for inspiration online and show him videos or just give him pointers on what you’re looking for. Take the elements that’s you loved from how he handled his fathers passing and apply that to you’re wedding. I’m sure he’ll understand what you mean since he has the talent of knowing what to say and when.
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  • L
    Super October 2020
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    I’m interested in this as well. There’s some guidelines I’ve seen on universal life (where we got him ordained) but I’m thinking of giving him a script of sorts. In my mind, greeting thanking people for coming, asking them to turn off cellphones until after the ceremony. Then we say our vows, present rings and pronounce husband and wife. And I want please seal this union with a kiss or something like that not you may kiss the bride. Then he says ladies and Gentlemen I present the new mr. and mrs. x.

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    My brother performed our ceremony, we wrote the ceremony script ourselves (we didn’t want to give him extra work to do) and then he added in a few lines of his own
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  • Emily
    Expert September 2020
    Emily ·
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    Good points - I'll probably want to tailor the intro/ outro a bit in those ways.
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    Our friend is officiating our wedding, so I found some examples online to share with him. I did tell him we didn't want anything religious (no "prayers" "blessings" or mentions of "God"), and that we wanted it to reflect us and feel more personal. We also didn't want anything too long. An ideal ceremony for us would be about 20-30 minutes long with the talking and vows about 10-15 minutes, 20 max.

    Helpful wedding ceremony and wedding vow links:

    https://www.theknot.com/content/wedding-ceremony-orderhttps://marriagenotary.com/resources-2/sample-marriage-vows/https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/your-go-to-wedding-vow-template

    I'd love to get even more resources for him so if anyone has advice or things to share please tag me!
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