Hand delivered invitations

I thought about doing that with our neighbor and some co-workers but yes, I found it a little tacky and afraid they'll think I'm being "Cheap"

So, we're mailing everything to everyone even our next door neighbor

I did that with some people, namely some immediate family or friends that we were seeing. When I gave it to them, I said, "I was going to mail it, but since we were seeing you it made more sense just to bring it." They all agreed. There's no point in having the letter bounce around the town/state through the post office if you're seeing the person and the invite is all ready to go.

I hand delivered some of mine. It was fun cause I got to make a big deal out of handing it to them! Like “look what I have for youuuuu”

I think there's something fun about the experience of getting it in the mail. Idk why, just makes it feel so "official." I don't think its tacky per se, but as a guest I would rather find it in my mailbox.

View Quoted Comment That’s where my mind is at! Plus it gives me a reason to go see some people (like my aunt)

I don't find it tacky at all. I gave the invitations to my coworkers at work. I was seeing my future in-laws the next day, so I gave them their invitation then. No one found it cheap and I was able to see their excitement in person!

View Quoted Comment Yep! One thing though about coworkers...unless you're inviting everyone in the office, I wouldn't, or I would be very cautious to do it on the sly. This way you avoid any awkward "where's mine?" conversations.

View Quoted Comment I work at a very small daycare (10 employees including myself) so inviting everyone won’t be a problem!

I don't think it's tacky! But it can be more of a headache. For our first round of invitations (sent before we postponed), we hand delivered the ones to our friends that live near us and who we see on a regular basis (they had actually told us to save the postage and just hand deliver it to them). It was kind of a hassle to track everyone down to collect their RSVP cards, especially once COVID hit and we didn't see our friends for a couple months. Now that we postponed, we decided that everything going forward (postponement announcements/change the date cards and new invitations when the time comes) will just be sent by mail to everyone. The extra postage to mail to our friends that live nearby will cost us like $4-$5 total, so overall, I'd rather pay the extra couple dollars and save the headache.


If you do hand deliver them, and if you have an RSVP card that they will be sending back to you, I recommend still giving them an envelope for the RSVP card with postage on it for them to mail back to you, just in case.

View Quoted Comment Our rsvp is a pre stamped postcard so thankfully they won’t have to worry about that! Though I’m hoping most people actually use our website

I don't think it's tacky one bit! I hand delivered a few of mine to coworkers, family, and a few close friends. We just had a birthday party for my nephew and a few of them were there that I didn't have addresses for so it worked out to hand deliver them. I just made sure to include a stamp on the RSVP so they could mail that.

View Quoted Comment Nice, that sounds like it will work well! Much less headache, haha. In that case, I think hand delivering some of the invitations is a good idea!

I don’t think it’s tacky to hand deliver to people you’re going to see unless you were just handing them an invite without the envelope and not bothering to put their names on it. I only had 24 to send, so I mailed them all. Two weeks later, I found out that my MOH never received hers 🙄. Since then I’ve been worried others went astray- our post office is not very reliable.

If they're local and you see them all the time or you can see them just to give it to them, I don't see why it would be tacky. I honestly feel like it's more personable. Obviously if they're too far then that's a different story. We'll actually be hand delivering some ourselves cause it wouldn't make sense to have it go through the postal process and take longer than it would really need to. Especially if something was to happen within that postal process. People make mistakes sometimes so I rather not risk it if it's for someone right down the street.

No. I don’t think it it tacky at all. I guess my family is old fashioned. My mom wants us to hand deliver the invitations to all the close relatives because it’s a “form of respect”.

I don’t think it’s tacky to hand deliver

We hand delivered to our parents only. I agree with Stacey that having an invitation hand delivered takes away the magic of receiving it in the mail and opening it up.

Not at all I think they will appreciate the personal touch and i would like people would feel more important that you invited them in person.

I think we will be hand delivering most of our invitations since it’s all close friends and family.

I don’t think it’s tacky! I might hand deliver a couple of mine and put them on their desks or in their work mailboxes for them to find and be surprised.