Has anyone gotten married on September 11?

Countless people do with zero issues. People still celebrate birthdays and other joyous occasions. It's no different from Dec 7 (US attacked during WW2) which people treat as another day now but for decades it was recognized as a somber occasion. At some point, people realize you can honor what happened without being melancholy.


I have a friend who is former military and they married on that day because it was the only day available and no one batted an eye.

One of my husband's business partners, engineer, wanted a Sunday, 9/11/2016 ( after the Jewish Sabbath). There were very few 15 yr memorials special events. They asked around. Everyone seemed to think that the 2/11 attacks needed to be remembered.
But not necessarily on the date, shutting it down for everything forever. Most people who go to a memorial don't then do nothing the rest of the day. Like V-E and V-J day, which are remembered, but not black out dates for other things. I was wondering, but they were fine. Very few declines, more than they estimated for a Sunday wedding. The weather cooperated to so they could open up the patio and deck for dancing, to set up more tables than expected. I remember it as a great wedding.

Girl, I can speak to this! I had picked out my dream venue; before even getting engaged. I also wanted a short engagement ( mid 30’s and we wanted to start a family.) My fiancé proposed at the end of 2019 and because my mom knew it was happening, she’d already lined up a venue tour. Well long story short the ONLY date available was September 11th. We contemplated it for a long time and even looked at over 50 venues. Nothing compared. (Due to covid, I’m currently planning for the 3rd time and even have new venue after all this) but YES, some people had comments. We were in incorporating 9/11 into our wedding to pay respects. We planned to have a moment of silence at the church and the “gift” to our guest was a donation to two charities for the families of 9/11.

With that said, I agree with whatever one said above. I think you are 100% fine.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much!! I was hoping for some first hand experiences so this is so helpful!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much!!

As posted in the past on this topic, it depends on your location (such as, are you in NY?) and guests. This year will be the 20th anniversary so I think it will be a bigger memorial day than the past years. However, life goes on and a wedding is the perfect time to find joy and "light" in date that brought darkness.

Yeah, this is a know-your-crowd thing.

We got married IN Manhattan, FIL worked for the NYPD, and my own father had many business associates he lost that day. So, for us - no, no, terrible idea.

But... you're not us. If you're not in the NYC/DC/Penn area... it's unlikely to be as big of a deal.

Like others said, it’s probably a know your crowd thing, for location and friends. I do know some people who were there and they may/may not have feelings about it, and people memorialize different things different ways. It’s a wedding, a happy rite of passage, and weddings happen no matter what is going on in the world, right?

Definitely a know your crowd thing. For me personally I would continue with that date, I don't think it's insensitive at all

View Quoted Comment Thank you, this is very insightful! I’m in Niagara County, NY about an hour from Toronto and over 400 miles from NYC. I’m so sorry for your family’s losses!

My wedding is September 11th 2021 and other then my mom being negative and saying “that was a horrible day for everyone and no your getting married on the 20the anniversary why did you pick that date?” No one else has said anything about it. I plan on keeping my date I postponed 3 times already and we’ve been engaged for 5 1/2 years (it would be 6 years on October) everyone above is right it is a know your crowd thing.

This is definitely a know your crowd thing.