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Jainee
Beginner February 2020

Has anyone just feel resentment towards fiancé?

Jainee, on December 20, 2019 at 4:39 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10
We’re getting married in February 2. We been together for 9 years,
Lately anything and everything he does annoys me so much. I just find him really obnoxious lately. And I been picking fights lately...

He always messes up lately and he said it’s on accident..Like he accidentally threw my package away that had my order like pop sockets, etc. and he’s willing to pay for it. But i argued with him that he always messes up and that he always apologizes. I’m honestly fed up. I don’t know if it’s the wedding stress because we are super behind on everything we need .
At this point I’m second guessing if I actually want to get married... I just don’t feel excited or nervous about the thought . And lately all I wanted to do is spend some time away from him because I just want to have my alone time...
Has anyone felt this way? Or at least something similar? (Please no rude answers)I can’t point out why I feel that way about him. Because I do love him.

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Latest activity by Amanda, on December 22, 2019 at 1:48 AM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Well I would ask you this, are you more excited about the wedding then he is? And I'm only asking because for a minute I got a little frustrated with my fiance because I want to have a plan and discuss our wedding and he said the liquid to a new year but anytime I discussed anything even at a very affordable cost he just looks frustrated and then changes his mind. But he's quick to want to spend thousands on updating our house. Not fixing something broken in the house but just updating something. I would much rather wait on that and invest in our wedding but I also realized that if he had his way he would go to the courthouse so at some point I had to tell him that he's quick to spend money on the house but not on this so definitely the new year we're going to make you find a plan but ultimately I know that I'm going to be more excited about this than he is which is frustrating. I am going to say this that I don't care what kind of relationship you are in and how much you like to spend time together but I feel some time apart is very good. I feel like it allows you to really miss the person so maybe you need to hold off wedding stuff for a little bit go out for brunch with your girls I mean even make it a full day with just your girls. I'm really sorry and hopefully everything will get better but I do feel it's probably just wedding stress.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Maybe you should postpone until you feel more confident in your relationship. My concern would be that you’re not going to find someone who doesn’t make mistakes. He obviously didn’t throw your package away on purpose and that could have been anyone. Marriage is about loving someone behind their imperfections. It’s fine if he’s not the one for you, but the next person will also make mistakes, I’m sure you make them as well.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    *beyond their imperfections
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  • Soon2BSmith
    Expert October 2020
    Soon2BSmith ·
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    It definitely sound like the wedding stress is getting to you, especially if you're doing most of the planning yourself. It hard when you're working hard to do something for the two of you, and then he seems to be working against you by making those simple mistakes.

    I would definitely take a weekend to yourself from your fiance and also always from wedding planning or take a weekend with your fiance and way from the wedding things.


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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    OK, I saw your other thread (about needing space) before I saw this one. Taken together, it really seems like the problems are much more serious than just needing some alone time or temporary wedding-related stress. It's good that you recognize your role in the issues (picking fights) but is definitely sounds like you two need to talk through what is really going on. Is this a temporary thing that will fix itself once wedding planning is over? Or are these problems big enough that you need to address them now before you get married?


    Is there any way to attend a few sessions of couples counseling before the wedding? That will help you two with communication, boundaries, etc.

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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I think the thing you need to ask yourself is if you were having these issues before you got engaged. Or has this all started happening since you started planning the wedding. If it is since you've started planning then I would say you are likely feeling this way due to the stress of planning. Either way it isn't good that you are tired of your fiance.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    I noticed that this is your second post about your Fiance irritating you and the two of you arguing. I’m sorry to hear that. I do think that you two need to take a step back and truly analyze everything before walking down the aisle. It’s much easier to cancel a wedding than it is to divorce. Make 100% sure you’re both ready with zero doubts. Be certain that marriage something that the two of you truly want to move forward with for the right reader and not simply because you have a wedding date closely approaching.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Oops! “... for the right *REASONS”
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  • Jainee
    Beginner February 2020
    Jainee ·
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    Yeah it’s just I feel like I just want a break from everything and have that alone time. It’s really difficult because we live together and I don’t have time where I can go out myself because of work. It’s just been really tough
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  • Amanda
    Dedicated June 2020
    Amanda ·
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    This doesn’t seem like a good start to a marriage...
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