Has anyone lost friendship/family after engagement?

I had a friend who got super jealous because I did not ask her to be in my bridal party. I just met her in May of 09 and we got engaged in Nov 09. I only have 4 girls on my side 2 of which are family. She got pissed and refuses to talk to me. I really don't care about her, but yeah I guess you can count me in on losing someone.

Yeah my Bff for 15 years. It really hurts but I know its is the best for me.

I am starting to find out that my dad isn't as supportive as I thought he was...so dissapointing.

Yes, wound up losing my DH's SIL and his Brother. She took something super small and flipped out about it the week of the wedding and then decided that her children (our niece and nephew) and herself were not coming to our wedding... then also planned a huge party at the same time as our reception and invited his entire side of the family to it. She's a piece of work! Still hurts, and she's still a biznitch every time we run into each other... never acknowledges me or anything!

Um. Idk what happened, but my brothers babys mom and me were really close, and then we got into a huge fight, about something really little. but. we aren't on speaking terms really at the moment. She was supposed to be my MOH. But, things change. Sometimes when they are gone, you really don't know how many problems they may have caused. You know?

My best friend of 13 years actually lost our friendship when SHE got engaged. Her personality did a complete 360. She asked me to be her MOH. Shortly after they were engaged, she started to belittled everything I did, and she just became someone I didn't like to be around. I purchased a $250.00 gift certificate for my FH's birthday gift at a golf course he loves. She asked me what I had gotten him. When I told her, her response was, "I spent way more than that!" (refering to how much she had spent on her FH's birthday gift.) After a period of not speaking with her, I finally was told that was no longer a part of the wedding... by her cousin's grandfather. Not only was I "booted" out of the wedding, but I was also not invited.

Eventually you'll find out who your true friends really are.

I can honestly say that there are some people who are so happy for u and some who really could care less. I think that it hurts more when it's the ones that know us, but for some reason they can't rejoice and be happy with us. I love my friends and the people in my bridal party. But when it comes to doing things and talking about certain things i speak to my FH and we have fun.

So far, I've lost 2 friends...by BFF and her sister whom I considered a friend of mine as well. I've known them for 11 years. In the last few years I started noticing how one-sided my friendship with them was & when they didn't show up to my e-party, that was the last straw for me..and I have to say..I don't regret it at all.

I've also noticed that a lot of my friends who are now married with kids (I'm the last to get married out of them) are too busy in their lives to be there for me as I was when they were getting married and I'm really trying not to take it personally and just enjoy my engagement and be thankful that I have my sisters and family around.

@Mrs. Turner2B I totally understand what you mean about being there for your friends when they got married and now that it's your turn they don't have the time for you since they are married with kids now! I'm really bummed that one of my friends said she most likely won't be at my wedding because her baby is due like 2-3 weeks before. I understand but I think her timing of getting pregnant kind of sucks since she knew I was getting married. Not that she should stop her life for mine but I have been to now 2 baby showers for her, a bridal shower, plus her wedding. She plans to come to my bridal shower and that's about it. I'm crossing my fingers that maybe she can make it to my wedding last minute. I'll just tell her if she does end up feeling up to coming she's welcome to come and there will be seats for her and her family and food anyways.

Yes, I lost my cousin and his wife who I considered family, she was pushy and when I didnt let her run things she lost it. I have also lost my two other cousins over the wedding, one wanted to use all the dresses that we used for another wedding, which i didnt really like and shes still mad at that...or is still holding it against me,idk but she took me off her fb and the other cousin just called me a bit** on her fb so im not talking to her anymore

My daughter lost her first MOH as the MOH blackmailed us, as parents, to pay her way here from Dallas (she wanted airfare for herself, as well as her two daughters). Say what?

When we called her bluff, she said she'd call my daughter and rat us out. So I ratted her out. I will not give in to a low class blackmailer. Neither did my daughter.

I lost a friend of 15 years, after she got engaged few months before my engagement. She completely changed, and was not the same person I had known for so many years. I tried talking to her, and things only got worse to the point where I felt like I was mourning a friend who once was. In the end, I know I did the right thing by ending the friendship. Some people only care about themselves.

I went through a couple friends and family and have been again proven that I am really alone. Very long story for me that is so hurtful and still is...and you never get validation when someone does wrong to you and that always makes the wound deeper and bigger. Don't really have any suggestions on how to deal with it-walk away to save yourself upset when you see or feel they don't care, don't overdue it with those that stay by your side, cherish those that are still with you after your wedding is complete.

I think there are really two separate issues. First, some people are just not interested in the details of weddings, even if they are happy for you. I had to learn which friends I could talk to about wedding stuff, and which would be bored silly by it. So yeah, if every conversation is about the wedding, you're going to have some people who back off based purely on that.

The other issue is that weddings tend to be a very emotional time. So if there is someone you've felt is your BFF, but who really hasn't been there for you much lately, you're more likely to notice and end the friendship during the engagement.

It's been my experience that nobody wants to talk about a wedding as much as the bride. Even your fiance won't want to sit around and talk wedding ALLLLLLL DA TIIIIIIIME. Early in the game, I could visibly see my hubby start to shut down when I would bring up wedding stuff so we started scheduling meetings. It worked very well for us.

With my friends, I tried not to bring it up unless they asked how things were going or asked specific questions. My sister never not once asked me how my planning was going. I thought she didn't give a rat's @$$ about my wedding. But then I went to my hometown and everybody I ran into kept saying how much my sister's been talking about my wedding. Which really helped how I was feeling about her. She was happy for me. She just didn't want to talk about it all the time.

Use WW as your outlet. You can talk wedding here to your heart's content.

It's not your imagination, trust me.

Since I got married, all but a few close pals have dropped off the face of the earth where I'm concerned. Most all of them are single, and they don't lead the same life that I do. I don't go out, get drunk, raise hell, and forget what I did the night before. I have responsibilities now, and I've matured as a person. A lot of times what happens is your friends view you as "watered down" or a "fuddy duddy" because you don't lead the crazy life anymore.

Another thing is when you start talking about nothing but your wedding when they do come around. Some of it is jealousy bc they wish thwy could find the right one and settle down. Some of it is boredom bc they aren't the center of attntion. Some of it is just plain old apathy. Whatever the case, no one but the bride honestly cares about her wedding 24/7, so I learned "don't ask, don't tell" was best when hanging out with friends. If they asked, "How's planning?" I respond with, "Just fine." (cont)

If they want specifics, I give them specifics. I find this is best with family as well.

The plain and simple of the situation is this:

NEVER make someone a priority when they only make you an option.

If they don't wanna be around, then it sux to be them. When they don't get an invitation to your wedding (or in my case, the renewal) and they are wondering why, you can just politely explain to them that you invited folks that didn't drop off the face of this earth when you became a bride to be and stuck with you through everything, including your crazy life while you were planning your wedding.

I'm almost 100% certain I'm going to have this converation with quite a few of my "friends."

I ended up losing my best friend as well. We had known each other and had been inseperable for 9 years and as soon as I mentioned that my FH and I were discussing marriage, a very nasty side of her came out. It completely shut me down to see that side of her. I had been looking forward to planning this day with her and immediately told her she and her son would be in my bridal party. Eventually her attitude towards my FH and myself became too much to handle and I called her out on it. I asked her why she was acting in such a way and why she couldnt consider my feelings. Turns out it was my fault for getting engaged. I had hurt her by being proposed too and planning my wedding. There wasn't anything else I could do to mend our friendship. I do understand why she felt this way. She is a part of a very broken and very selfish relationship, but the fact that she had to take these things out on me didn't make it right. I stopped all connections with her.

I haven't yet, but I do wish to lose some right now. Last I remember is that this is my wedding---i'm paying for the whole damn thing---why are you asking me to invite people I've never met or even know their name. and ...hey last time I checked, we were not that close either.

I just don't understand people....and I am learning that you can't please everyone....you are damn if you do and damn if you don't....I have lost family and friends since my wedding planning...No one calls, text or sends emails to ask me how things are going....626 ppl viewed our site here at wedding wire but only 18 ppl signed our guest book.....really? It's very hurtful how ppl change on you and then try to find a way to say that you are the one that changed......It's stressful enough planning a wedding no matter how big or small, there is no time for all the other BS from people because they feel some type away.......

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