Has anyone lost friendship/family after engagement?

I wholeheartedly agree with LL on this one. Some people may not show their enthusiasm and want to hear every single detail of the planning but that doesn't mean they aren't happy for you. Yeah you want people's support and everything but no one is going to be as enthusiastic about your wedding as you are. I only talked wedding when I was asked or it was brought up in the conversation because it can get really really annoying to hear nothing but wedding related stuff. People may just stop talking to you because they know that's what they'll hear. I don't really bring up a convo with a gf because all I hear about is her baby daddy drama..same thing just a different day. That being said I only lost touch with a few people..one was a bm who was crazy and tried to make our day about her but honestly..I'm glad we've lost touch since the wedding.

I had a friend who swore up and down she would be there for my wedding planning along with my MOH and I have not seen her in a year I know she's busy and she has school and work etc but I was always there for her good times and bad and she hasn't even attempted to hang out with me eventhough I have many times so I stoped trying we're still friends I guess not close how we were just there now its dissappointing @ mrs turner I feel yah all my hs friends with the exception of 1 have kids and one in particular we had to keep asking her a million times if she was going to go to my bachelorette because i went to hers and all her baby parties but she said she didn't know I mean how does that work I go to all your events yet you can't come to the few I have? its so one sided with some people she's going but it took so much to get a definite yes from her and I always go to her everything even when its 1 1/2 away from me! but I haven't lost anyone just dissapointed in some people

I think that after my wedding in 18 days that I will lose my bff/moh. She is so different now. In the beginning of planning she worked for Zappo.com and came over all the time to do wedding related stuff. Then she got fired and fell into a depression and I tried to help her and she wouldn't let me. Then she started working at Kia and now she is so consumed with a married man that she can't even talk to me for longer than 15 minutes a day, and it's random text messages. She came over not too long ago, but that was to get her birthday card and present. The last couple of days I have been working on wedding stuff and I said something about her bouquet being too skinny and it needed more flowers, her remark was, "Oh we have plenty of time, stop worryin about it, we'll get to it." Uhm, 18 days isn't plenty of time. So I can see her being gone on her own account after the wedding.

Yupp...my bestf stopped talking to me completely after I met my fh..my close cousin did the same after the engagement..I wonder who would or wouldn't show up at the wedding because they can't stand my happiness or are just jealous..that's when we would see who our real friends really are...

Yup! my two close friends blew me off when I moved to MD with my FH and when he proposed, i got a 'who's your MOH going to be?' and when I said 'we arent having a wedding party' I got no response. You can see what kind of friends I HAD.. my true friends have since come forward and helped me plan and give me advice

Two of my close friends barely talk to me anymore. I don't really talk about the wedding other to my mom and my sister and bless their hearts they listen and don't complain about it! My sister is thrilled because I think she'll living out the wedding she never got but isn't being pushy about anything! Just about everyone got pissed at me when we changed the wedding to the Keys because they couldn't afford to go, I understand money's tight but at least look into it before you flip on me telling me you can't go! I'm figuring out who my true friends are and who I thought was there!

I haven't lost any friends (yet lol) because I try to keep the wedding stuff to myself and with my WW family. Luckily, my older sister/ MOH will let me sit and talk about the wedding for hours, watch all the shows and flip through all the magazines with me. But outside of her, I don't really bring it up.

I think as a bride it's hard for us to remember that not everyone is as excited about the wedding as we are. And we also tend to forget that it may be hard for someone to be happy for you when their lives aren't going as well. That's not to say you should hide your feelings or put your wedding in the closet, but some single friends may not want to hear about your loving relationship that has led to marriage when they're (for example) running around with a married man.

You always have us on WW!

It happend to me. I would say jealous. They wished it was them or want to have a big wedding like you did. At our wedding it was hubby father's wife. She was wasted before the wedding and try to do everything to destroy are wedding. She was jealous of everything. And when she got marry I was not trying to do anything to her. The bad part of it was she play a song that my dad and I was going to dance to. But I was not doing the father and daugther dance anymore because my dad was in the hospital for a few months unexpectly. I always say planning a wedding shows the true side of people. It shows if they really care or not. If they are their for you as well. Also your friends. Don't worry by the time of RSVP your friends may not be your friend much longer. I can tell you so many stories and things that happen. My step mother wanted us to post pone the wedding because of my father. The devil is busy and he do not want to see people get marry. Good luck!!!

It's has happened to me as well and all I can say is that you gotta live for yourself and do what makes you happy!

I have friends that I've known for 35 years. They didn't show up to the shower and when I asked they said "oh sorry, we forgot", and when I asked if they were sending in their RSVP cards, I got "at this point, does it really matter if we show up"...what the H*** does that mean?? I asked them (by phonemail message and email) but haven't heard from them in over a week now. So, I can sympathize and empathize. I think they are jealous but it'd be nice if they told me what it is I did wrong to upset them.

This thread is so sad. Its totally depressing me.

My cousin lost her bff/MOH 2 months before her wedding. My cousin refused to let me use her daughter as a flower girl because she wasn't going to be in the wedding party. Now her mom, my aunt, is talking crap about me without knowing the real reason why the kid isn't in the wedding party after all. FH's cousin got upset that she was also not a bridesmaid and also changed her mind about her kids being in the wedding party. She's also going through a divorce right now and has really changed her attitude with me. She's meaner and making my future MIL a bit mean towards me too. It makes me wonder if I still want to marry into the family. By the way, her brother got drunk the other night and asked me straight up if I was scared to marry into that family yet. WTF?

I know that this post is about losing people but... I have been delightfully surprised at the opposite happening. I feel like I have grown to see how freaking awesome my friends are and how unworthy I am. How did I get so blessed? My friends said that they love me and just want to be a part of helping me have the wedding of my dreams. My sisters and 2 bestfriends are priceless. I keep wondering how I will ever show them the same kind of love back. There is some family drama on FH's side and I have distant family inviting themselves to my wedding but good friends and family cover a multitude of bad.

Ok, I'll admit to just scanning PP. But I think it's normal for relationships to change after getting engaged. I've tried very hard to maintain relationships with my girlfriends. Even though we're still friends, things are definitely different than they were before. As far as totally losing people goes, I've lost a really good guy friend. We have a long, messy history. I knew that my settling down would change things between us, but I didn't think it'd totally end the friendship. And, most importantly, FS's relationship with his parents has greatly changed because of their objection to our non-Catholic wedding.

I have the opposite situation, and I am not the only one. It seems like when people found out that I was engaged people came out of the woodwork wanting invites to the wedding.