Has Anyone Regretted Changing Their Last Name?

View Quoted Comment So cool that he is doing that!

I don't think the length of your name should have anything to do with it. Name changing is so antiquated. Don't change if you don't want to.

Im not married yet but when we do get married I will be taking his last name even though Tia laurelli doesn't sound great i want his last name

I honestly wouldn't put your full name on the internets public forum.

just a heads up to you

View Quoted Comment Fair point, could you flag it for me? Can’t remove it myself from the app

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Sure. Ill flag it now.

wasn't trying to be rude, but you literally don't know who could be lurking

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I flagged it too.

So i’m not crazy about fh’s last name but i’m taking it. we joked about making a completely new last name combining both of ours but aren’t going to. so i’m taking his for tradition & future kids will be less confusing. even my coworkers have told me i can still keep my maiden name 😂😂😂

My mom tried to convince me to drop my middle name and use my maiden name like she did. She now has a 9 letter middle name with a 10 letter married name EW. I told her she was nuts since my maiden name was 10 letters and horrible. I HATED it. I dislike my middle name but it's Ann so it's better than using my 10 letter maiden name lol. The first time I got married I was beyond excited to ditch the maiden name.

My only regret was keeping my married name when I got divorced lol! I'm SO glad I love the new last name.

I’m changing my name and don’t want to. I know people will say my husband should let me do what I want, but we’ve had so many conversations, and it’s really important to him symbolically that we have the same last name and I decided to do it for him. I did bring up him taking mine, but the reality is that his name is way, way less common than mine (his name would be like, Mike Jones, if he took mine) and he has a business with his name on it. If the patriarchal tradition didn’t exist and we were just picking one of the two names, it would be his.

It does feel weird though cause I’m not one of those brides who wants “Mrs. HisLastName” all over everything. I want no “Miss to Mrs” or “Future Mrs.” It actually annoys me to no end that the woman’s title changes and the man’s doesn’t.

It also doesn’t help that I hate how his last name sounds with mine. It’s superficial, but I feel like I would be a lot more enthusiastic about taking his if I liked it. I’m also keeping my last name professionally, which honestly means it might just be easier to keep my name legally and use his socially (what I would prefer). We haven’t figured that one out yet but I did tell him he will be coming with me to all the government offices I have to go to to change it. If I have to deal with it, so does he.

I have never even given changing my name a second thought. I must be much more traditional than progressive? My last name is of Bulgarian descent. No one ever gets it right and probably never will. I'd always hoped I'd meet a nice boy to marry with the last name Smith....My FH's last name is Ukrainian and also 10 letters. Have to spell that one out too. Sigh...the joke is I will hyphenate. Actually rolls off the tongue quite smoothly, but I already have the habit of signing a capital M followed by an undetermined amount of squiggles and swoops....not sure I want to double it haha!

To comment directly to your situation I would ask if you have talked to your FH? Would he be hurt if you didn't take his name? If so why? Are you that concerned that you will regret it? If so, find YOUR why. The WHY is always a good place to start when attempting to solve a problem that is emotional. Use the rest of the W's to really discuss your entire situation. What, When, Who and it may help to figure out exactly how you are feeling and the reason behind those feelings. In the end it is your choice and to keep a successful relationship sometimes a compromise is needed. Hopefully you are able to come to a decision that sits well with your heart!

Just one data point, but... I opted for the two-last-names-no-hyphen-and-keep-my-middle-names option and, all told, with my first name, common-use plus legal middle names, and the double-barreled last name it's 6+4+6+7+9 for a 32-letter behemoth of a name. I'm still happy with my decision. :-)

I wouldnt say i regret it. I hyphenated and Its annoying seeing how long my name looks now, but i am glad i kept my maiden name.

View Quoted Comment Double hyphenation seems like a temporary solution, if their future child has the last name Smith-Evans and marries someone named Laskey-James they will be in a worse predicament.

I was able to keep my name professionally while changing it to his legally. It was the best compromise we could make. I have never wanted to change my name and working in the fire service you're often referred to by your last name. I'm also deeply connected to my family history and heritage. However, my now husband was ready to call off the whole wedding if I didn't change it (admittedly not a healthy viewpoint or dynamic at the time).It was a real sore spot for us. I literally cried the entire drive back from changing it at one office and it finally hit my husband that it was really important to me. So we met in the middle per say. I also kept my signature regardless of if I'm working or at home. It legally is my signature either way and no one has ever batted an eye at it, but it feels good to me to keep it.