Hate this "limbo" stage!

That part of planning is the WORST! We have a nearly exact 2 year engagement but the original plan was to only have one year, so we got started immediately. Well thanks to Covid we couldn't find anywhere so I had to wait forever to keep moving. Now I'm actually supposed to start doing things again and I feel so lost because I just stopped planning for like 5 months. Try and write down everything you can think of that you eventually want to do or ask! And now is a great time to figure out any smaller decisions on like decor.

I can completely relate, which is why we had a 9-month engagement LOL There's no way on earth I could live with this anxiety for more than a year! I'm a month out and ready to just do the damn thing.

I felt the same way! After we postponed, there was a whole year with absolutely NOTHING to do. I had questions for vendors, but I knew they were busy with their more current weddings, so I didn't want to bug them yet.

View Quoted Comment I also had a 2 year engagement and the first 6 months was the hardest to get through. Yes, work on the little things for now and write down your questions!

Use this time to make a lot of lists - spreadsheets are your friend! In the last month or so before our wedding I ended up making a spreadsheet to keep track of all the items we were bringing with us (a few DIY items and all the usual ceremony items, some games for the reception... nothing too crazy but that stuff really adds up, plus all the little accessories and ring boxes and stuff that you want photographed) and checking off what we had vs. still needed to buy, then organized it all into plastic bins labeled with where it needed to go at the venue. I wish I'd done a lot of that way earlier bc I totally could have - like buying the guest book, card box, ring bearer/flower girl items if applicable, cake knife if you're doing that, any other special ceremony or reception items... so much of that can be done well in advance and packed away neatly if you have somewhere to store it, so that you're not running around stressed in the couple weeks before trying to find everything. Having a spreadsheet of vendor questions is also a great idea so they're all in the same place and you can put answers in as you get them.

I feel this!!! Hahaha
Between my ADHD and hyper focus, I am trying to get everything done I physically can. Haha
My wedding is in October and my “wedding day essitnals bag” is already packed. Along with my wedding shoes 😂 also might have type A personality and my MIL has all the connections and it’s driving me insane … So I definitely feel your pain! Best of luck!

Just came to say I FEEL YOU! We had to postpone twice because of Covid (making our engagement 4 years instead of 2), so I had literally 2 YEARS of “limbo”. You want to keep doing things, planning things, looking at things, etc. to keep you excited about the wedding… but there’s nothing that can really be accomplished by doing so. It’s so frustrating!!
Let me be a cautionary tale… I did keep looking… and now we have $2500 in decor that we won’t be using because I ended up changing everything 🤦🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the tips. I will definitely make that questions list

I know and understand fully how you feel cause I was the same way, lol. Rant away!

I feel you!!! I been getting a lot oh “ it’s to early” I want to scream too! I don’t want to be 5 months away from my wedding stressing! I want to get it all done well it’s still fresh in my head!!!

View Quoted Comment Exactly! Plus 90% of our guests are flying in from other states, so I want to have as much information for them as early as possible (hotel block, welcome dinner location, etc) ugh!

View Quoted Comment I know exactly how you feel! It’s very frustrating