Have to cut bachelorette party guest list - advice please?

Are you able to book multiple hotel rooms instead of one Airbnb? That way, there should be enough space!

It feels rude to uninvite people to me, too. I would plan something with room for everyone, even if that means scaling back or changing your vision. You have SO MUCH time before your wedding that there should be plenty of options if you are willing to be creative.

I agree with Lisa and Maggie. Multiple hotel rooms may be the way to go. Or you can always scale back the event to someone's house (if there is room), or change the event entirely (book a private dinning room and then night out on the town), or change the location where everyone can fit in an airbnb, should it work for everyone's budget.

However, a lot depends on if they have confirmed that they can attend and that they have the budget for it. If these friends have already committed and then they are told no (regardless of any reason other than you cancelled it) it's going to hurt. They've already budgeted, blocked off the time on their calendar, and once the pictures start rolling in, it may make it worse.

Wow yeah that's rude. I would imagine that would really hurt the people that didn't make the cut. For me, I would re-evaluate the friendship if I was one of the people cut. I would change your accommodation or your plans to have everyone you invited attend.

If your wedding date is correct, you have plenty of time to find a new bachelorette location. Did you reschedule your wedding? If so, it could be considered a new event, in which case the guest list is a blank slate.

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I didn't see the wedding date, yes this is a good point OP!

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Hi Hannah, yes I have had to do that unfortunately. Do you think so?

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Yeah, but the idea was for us to get a place for ourselves. I also tried multiple airbnbs (like 4 apartments in a house), but it's no parties allowed or no noise after 11pm! A lot of owners I've spoken with would not even let us stay because it's a bachelorette party. Hotel will probably be the last option, it is definitely something we could do. Thanks!

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I have thought of that - nobody has that much space, airbnbs won't take us, and budget is not a problem because I was always going to pay for whatever accommodation we end up with. I agree re attendance confirmations, I was thinking of asking them well in advance to confirm. And then decide capacity dependent where we go and what we do.

View Quoted Comment Since you have almost a year to plan this, I would honestly table it and figure it out later. As we've already seen, so much can change in like 8-10 months time.

View Quoted Comment You could call it a girls weekend instead of a bachelorette party while trying to book it.

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That might get the person that booked kicked off the airbnb site though.

View Quoted Comment There's really no difference between a girls weekend and a bachelorette except the name. Groups of friends get Airbnb's and drink in the house all the time. What's the difference?

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Airbnb can come down hard on people that have unauthorized "events". If the hosts find out that an undeclared bachelorette happened, it could affect the website rating of the renter. Makes it harder for that person to rent from airbnb again. I know a lot of airbnb hosts, because I live in a tourist destination.

View Quoted Comment Ah gotcha. Definitely don't want anyone to get in trouble. This just what my bridesmaids did and nothing bad happened.

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Yeah. Airbnb is cracking down HARD on that. Renters can get banned from the site. At least from what the hosts tell me.

Out of curiosity, how many people were invited to the bachelorette party?