Have you ever been to a wedding where.....

Your officiant does not have to ask if anyone objects.

Years ago, before I started collecting retainers in advance to stave off the problem, I got stood up a couple of times. I showed up at the venues and the couples did not. I never heard from one couple. Other couple said that they got a call that the bride's aunt was seriously ill and they had to cut their vacation short. Of course, they could have called me beforehand and saved me the time spent preparing their ceremony & traveling.

No but last night I dreamed It was my wedding day and my florist and D.J didn't show up.

No but I do know a couple who got divorced almost immediately after the wedding. We all knew it wasn't going to work.

Never, and hope I never do. But I think that is rude to not show up at a wedding.

@Ann V.. is he in recovery?

My FH and I are both in recovery 5 plus years and I almost never tell "normal people" that Im alcoholic, I just say Im "in recovery". Could it possibly be your wording which turns them off? I would suggest using the phrase in recovery rather than saying he is alcoholic, because that implies he is still active.

If he IS still active, run. Fast and long. Trust me. I am one.

My dad and I attended a wedding once where the bride was very, very late. We were starting to get seriously worried that she was going to stand him up. Thankfully, she did show and the rest of the wedding went without a hitch, but we were sweating!

Our friends daughter had the flu before the wedding. She was in the ER. They dressed her. The groom carried her up the aisle. They sat in chairs. They left right after wedding. Family continued to reception. Bride and groom went back to hospital. They left two days later for a cruise and the groom got sick for the entire time.

@Lynzey K I was talking to FI just recently how I don't think the bach party the night before is a good idea. I was like with so much going on the actual wedding day why would we want to be hung over

@Katie L. I hope he is in recovery as well, there is a big difference between recovery and someone who is active. If he is active I will say I can see a bit why your family is hesitant. My mom is an alcoholic in denial so we say and well, it has ruined every relationship including ours and my children. It's a hard life to choose to enter into. My thoughts will be with you.

@ Misty, yes it is a hard life with an active alcoholic. You have to accept the fact that you will always be second best to the drink.

People in recovery can be perfectly productive, sane and wonderful people, but any alcoholic who is still drinking is in no shape to be entering into a relationship. In AA, we call that "taking a hostage"

Well almost, I was married before. The day of the wedding I got ready at his parents house and he got ready at his grandparents house. The church was like 5 minutes from both places. I was left at the house with my moh who was his sister. His grandfather was supposed to come and get me and take me to the church. We waited for 45 minutes past the time. No one had thier phones on and we had no car at the house. Finally my doc came roaring up and threw me into the car. They had inner doors in the church and all my girls went through but they wouldn't open them for me. So I kicked them open. The entire time I was waiting for a ride to the church they were trying to talk him out of marrying me. We wnet through with it but should not have. The marriage ended almost exactly one year to the day we got married. He went pshyco and tried to kill me and his family refused to help me get him help.

Closest situation was my FSILs wedding about 2 yrs ago. She was 45 minutes late and it got awkward. Apparently they had to hunt down the limo driver who was an hour late to pick her up. She almost drove herself to the wedding but fortunately he showed up and everything else went as planned.

Never saw a wedding not happen.

Our families have a bunch of jokesters in them so several people joked they were going to "object" during the ceremony. No one did! But when our officiant asked who gives this woman away after my mom said I do, everyone in the crowd said we all do! Like they wanted to get rid of me! It was funny and everyone did laugh.

And while we were taking our photos after the ceremony, we had a big group shot with immediate family from both sides and instead of saying cheese like normal people do, my uncle said say divorce attorney! That's the type of sense of humor some people in my family have! Well it did the trick. Everyone was laughing and have huge smiles in the picture, so it's definitely one of my favorite photos!

When my uncle got married, his brothers, including my dad, and their one sister took him to the hotel bar and got him drunk. They got married about 10 hours from where we lived, in her hometown. Apparently the brothers thought it would be funny to put him on a bus back to DE. Luckily my aunt intervened at the last minute or he would have woken up several hours away the morning of the wedding. It's funny now, but I can't even imagine if they had actually gotten away with it. 5+ brothers is just too much trouble. lol.

Agree w/Lynzey about not having bachelor party night before. For my first wedding, ex-husband had a bachelor party a couple weeks before...but then still went out and got trashed with a bunch of buddies the night before. He got in a fight with someone, so all the family pics had to show his "good" side, since one eye/cheek was all bruised and red.

I love this post & I hope others have more stories to share!! Some of these stories had my mouth on the floor, haha.

Well...3 days before my first wedding, I had my MOH call me (we were 800 miles apart) in tears telling me she couldn't be there. Reason: she hadn't slept well in WEEKS because she didn't think he was EVER going to treat me as I deserved. I considered calling it off because I KNEW it was killing her and she was the only one who told me this. When I explained what had happened to my fiance at the time, he reassured me she was wrong and that everything would be fine. I called my family and they all assured me it was fine...that she was just wanting to back out or control my life. Well...fast forward a week to my honeymoon and guess what? My now ex said, "I don't think I want to be married"!!!! Ugh. Wish I would have listened!!!!

OMG!! I would die if I ever witnessed an "I don't" or a no show bride or groom. I'd feel so bad for the person.

But, @Future Mrs. Panda - WHAT??! If he wanted to embarrass/humiliate her why did he just not sign the marriage license after the ceremony? Like @Reenski said, I'd think an annulment would be more of a pain than just not signing. But either way, that situation is just horrible...but kinda funny! LOL!

@Buffee - *gasp* What a douche!! But, what a great friend you have to tell you that. Most would just keep it to themselves.

@Candice, exactly my point. I mean, mean part of me gets wanting to humiliate her, rational part says "The less trouble for me, the better, so I won't sign!"

@Buffee -- because of stories like that, my best friend and I (and my husband also does this with his best friend) are completely honest about these things. Only our other best friend (who has since passed away) warned against her marrying her first husband. She hung out with them as a couple and knew it wasn't right. I didn't, so the best I could do was suggest counseling. She left him 1 week before their 1st anniversary because he consistently lied to her about big things and essentially stole her money to "finish" his degree (he didn't.)

I'm so happy that I can say her current husband is beyond fantastic for her. I had to tell her I didn't think a previous boyfriend was right, that she just wanted it to be right. But with her H now, it's like, "DUH! Why didn't ya'll save everyone trouble and do this sooner?!?"

The one about the photos and the annulment is actually just an urban legend. Though if it really did happen, that is a groom seriously committed to playing the long game.

http://www.snopes.com/weddings/embarrass/bothered.asp