Have you ever had family not come to your wedding?

I think my only Aunt won't be coming for no reason other than my dad (her brother) passed away last year and she's mad at my mom for some reason. It hurts but I'm choosing to focus on those that do come and share the day with us.

DH's dad said he wasn't going. Just to be a drama queen. Sometimes marriage is about becoming a family unit to yourself. And that is okay.

No one my father's side of the family, 60 people including him, came to my. He was upset that I decided not to have him walk me down the aisle. I also chose not to do the father/daughter dance. They supported him and did not come. No love lost. I only invited because my mother forced me.

I got over the hurt cuz they were being honest , focus on the family that will be there with you that day.

Same here. My wedding is in Illinois and my family is all out of state. Sent our STDS in March and I have an uncle and aunt that can't come as well as my FH has an aunt and uncle who can't come. It makes me frustrated because they had time to make plans to be able to attend our wedding. Trying not to take it to heart, but I totally get it. It's frustrating.

My mother's family is scattered across the country and we already know they won't be able to take the time or spend the money to come here for my wedding, she won't have any of her family at the wedding either. She has a few close friends that she considers family more than her actual family and it means more to me that they will be here than the people I'm related to be blood.

I ado want to say that I possibly would have a difficult time traveling that far for a wedding unless I was very close to either the bride or groom. Between work schedules, finances, and children's schedules.

I haven't had my wedding yet but so far my aunt and uncle on my dad's side aren't coming. They're older and their health is so that they just can't make the drive. I suspect that there will be more no's because that's just the way it goes. You can send save the dates a year in advance and some people just aren't going to be able to make it work, (due to health, finances or other commitments). Go ahead and be hurt at the situation but not at them. I, of course, wish my aunt and uncle could go but it's not their fault that they are aging and are no longer able to handle long car rides.

I had several say no too.

We only had 10 family members at our wedding between the two of us. You read that right, 10. The majority of my family didn't know I was even getting married because they didn't approve and my spouse's family is all dead. It's hurtful, but just remember that blood lines don't make family.

I'm expecting a large portion of both my mom's and Dad's family to say no. In fact I know some will not even RSVP. But those who don't RSVP I'm not tracking down they will be marked no

None of my family is coming to our wedding. It isn't because of distance but because they don't agree with our relationship. Not quite the same situation as yours but I completely understand the disappointment. Just remember that everyone who loves and supports you the most will be there. At the end of the day you get to marry your best friend!

I'm expecting more of my family not to make it than will, and I am disappointed but also understand. Most live in far away states and NYC isn't exactly a cheap place to visit.

I'm actually feeling more disappointed that a lot of my girlfriends will be missing the bachelorette. One can't find a babysitter, one can't get out of work, one's computer broke and she needs it for work and that expense is the priority... all super valid reasons and I'm not mad or anything, just totally bummed.

I’m getting married in 33 days thank you love and my aunt is telling me she’s not going to come to my wedding if my cousins girlfriend comes I’m devastated. I’ve also lost one of my closest friends because she’s not in my wedding this fairytale has become a nightmare!

This happened to me with my dad’s side of the family. I was so hurt. My dad and brother came and I had an uncle and aunt who came from my dad’s side who came from one state over. My family would have had to drive from CA to northern Utah for my wedding. I was hurt bc the weekend of my bridal shower, which was in CA to make it convenient for my family and friends to attend, my cousin passed away and I flew back for his funeral the next weekend. It was hard in the midst of taking time off for my wedding and financially difficult for me but I made it happen. I have attended everyone of my cousin’s weddings and every one of my family’s functions that I have been invited to and I have adopted a value and belief system that no matter what family is a priority. I also let my family know ahead of time and with plenty of notice. They do not all have financial issues however with my wedding being just a month after my cousin’s passing I could understand given the circumstances. The only thing that still bothers me to this day is that almost all but one cousin, did not ever say congrats after or even send me a card. That is what hurts me the most. I don’t care about gifts even though they had access to a registry and an online fund for us, but to not even send me a card. They just replied with “sorry can’t make it.” No reason expect for that one cousin who gave a darn good reason up front and far in advance. She even sent me $ to my fund. It was so hurtful. Now I have a cousin on my dad’s side who has a wedding coming up and I want to go bc of my values with family but my dad is also hurt that none of his family showed so he doesn’t want to go. People don’t realize the effects it can have. I think I’m grieving the family I wish I had when it comes to the values of doing everything you can to support one another especially on big events/occassions and to at least at a minimum wish them congrats or send a card! A card can literally cost a $1.25 at dollar tree. It doesn’t have to be much.