Have you lied about your venue's capacity to justify not inviting someone?

Definitely guilty here for some of my extended family asking to invite people I don’t even know. “I’m sorry cousin Jane that I have met once, but no you can’t invite your neighbors”

No, I just said "we are having a small wedding." Not their business.

Unintentionally. We misread the capacity as 10, instead of 20. It was another room at the chapel that was 10. We found out with less than a month to the wedding. But we invited who we could afford so we are okay. The venue size was just one aspect

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This is completely understandable! It's better to know everyone at your wedding than to invite guests you are not familiar with!

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I think this is a valid reason for not inviting people! Don't sweat it! As long as you have your loved ones at your wedding, that's all that matters!

Not about venue capacity, but I do tell people a lot that I'm only having a 100 people (which is true)

No. But I have been using my catering cost as an excuse!

Nope. Our venue has enough space. And quite frankly, if I want you there I'll invite you. I don't need to make an excuse as to why I do or don't. We have already taken a family member and his wife off the guest list because of her actions toward my FH step mother. I love his stepmother as if she is my own mother, we would rather his step mother be there enjoying herself without the added drama that the SIL brings.

And neither of us is sorry.

Innocent of this one.

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This is a pretty common answer and a completely valid excuse!

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Well, it's better to be honest than to get yourself into a pickle.

Not yet but if the guest list keeps growing I might have to!

Totally innocent, my budget can afford certain amount of people. I tell people that my wedding is small and having big bachelorette and bridal party since i can't invite everyone. I remind my family members hey I can't afford to have so and so or can't do this due to budget.

Didn't have to lie about this because it was the truth haha. We wanted small and intimate and so we chose a venue with that in mind.

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I'm sure your guests will love having an intimate and personal experience with you and your future spouse!

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It's good that you can be honest about your guest list! I'm sure you'll have a blast at your bachelorette and bridal parties!

No but our venue size is really making our list hard to make - we may end up telling some not at all religious friends that as much as we want them at the wedding the church can only hold 150 and that is filling the side chapel where you can hear but not really see the altar but if they really want to celebrate with us our reception venue is much bigger so we could add them there. It would only be the friend who wont want to sit through a full mass anyway so they would more likely thank us for the reception only invite.

Yes!!! I had a distant friend (we never even talk any more really) tell me that her and her family better get an invite, and I told her that I hadn’t gotten to making the guest list because we can only fit “this” many people and fh has a HUGE family, and almost all of them ‘have’ to be invited

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Oh wow, this is a really good idea! I'm sure your friends would understand!

It's not really 100% a lie. We wanted a small wedding to go with our small venue, max of 60 people. But cousins that haven't spoken to me in 8 years are suddenly coming out of the woodwork.🙈 if you don't even know FH name, why do you think you'd be invited?