Hello,
Sorry for asking on this thread but it seems the most relevant one I could find...
I have moved from UK to California. SO and I are getting married this October. We didn't want to tell anybody apart from certain families and friends because we need to be married for me to legally stay in the country. I am a hopeless romantic and I wanted to propose to her with a ring in a beautiful location so she would remember this. However we simply cannot afford this due to immigration costs and the fact I cannot work until we are legally married and I have obtained a work permit.
We want to get married in secret in October but once I am working I want to "propose" and then have our wedding with all our families and friends to celebrate in the near future. We know we love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together, I just want my to be wife to have the amazing wedding day she deserves and a romantic proposal without everything thinking, "Oh they are already married this is just a load of BS." Maybe I'm thinking about the social perspective too much but she really deserves a special day and I feel if people knew we got married (with no rings and it not really being special) in October and then we had our wedding the following year, it wouldn't be as special.
Just looking for some advice or if anyone has been in a similar situation.
Long distance: 3 years (saw each other for 1 month in each summer and 1/2 weeks every 3/4 months)
Living together: (2 months)
Thanks in advance.