Having children

I already had a daughter when I met H but we started having the future children conversation a few months into our relationship. We both wanted to make sure we were on the same page before continuing our relationship. We are planning to start trying in the next few months for a baby.

We knew before the wedding we wanted to start trying to expand our family asap since we're not getting any younger (I just turned 29 and H is turning 33 next month).
We got lucky and got pregnant super quick! We got married 23 weeks ago and now I'm 21 weeks along with our baby girl

View Quoted Comment Amazing! I’m still on the ups with it.

View Quoted Comment Wow! So amazing! How is it and having a career also?

View Quoted Comment I’ve been a stay at home mom since my daughter was 2. I plan to eventually go back to work but for now we are a one income household and plan to be for quite some time.

We have been having this discussion for a long time, and pretty seriously ever since we got engaged in February. A good starting point for us was talking about what age we'd like to be "done" having kids by and how many we'd like to have. It has been a long, evolving conversation over this year, but we eventually decided to start trying shortly after we get married. We're not old by any stretch, but we'll both be turning 30 next year, so we don't plan to wait long. It's different for everyone.

We talked about it before we got married, to make sure our timelines & desires aligned.

We've had this discussion a couple times during our engagement. We both want to start in the near future, but want to get a little more out of debt before starting a family. We are planning on starting to try next year (mid or end)

We've talked about it so many times as we have been together for nearly 9 years (starting at 15&16). I have a birth control implant in my arm that lasts 3 years. We are getting married 4/25/20 and my implant is set to be replaced 7/19/21 so we plan on just removing it at that point and seeing where life takes us in our journey to have a family

We started discussing kids a few months into our relationship to make sure that we were on the same page. No children would have been a deal breaker for me. As a same sex couple, the process is obviously different and often times takes more planning. We don't have a specific timeline set, but we plan to put our current house on the market shortly after the wedding and will start trying once we're settled into a larger home.

We’ve started talking pretty seriously about future plans for kids and we’re still a few years out from the wedding.
Like Caytlyn said, with same-sex couples the planning that goes into it can take a lot longer, and we wanted to be sure we were on the same page about how many kids, donor v. adoption, etc. No kids would’ve been a deal-breaker for me, and no adoption would’ve been a deal-breaker for her, so it was good to get that conversation settled as early as possible.
We know that we want to have 3-4, start with at least one kid through IUI, and eventually adopt at least one kid from the Philippines (where my partner’s from). We still need to iron out a timeline—I think mine’s a little ahead of hers—but that’ll likely be done before the wedding as well.

We discussed kids early on in our relationship. We want to start trying right away after we get married. We have a plan already as far as my job is concerned. So ideally within the first year of marriage we would like to have our first.

View Quoted Comment Not bad at all! That’s a good plan

We had this talk before we decided to be together because I know its a deal breaker for many and I wanted to lay all of my cards on the table before we started this journey together. He is the only one that can decide what he can or can't live with and once the decision is made, its made. I still get concerned that he will try to get me to change my mind, but that won't happen on my end.

View Quoted Comment You don’t wang any children?

Personally, I can’t wait to start having all the babies but my fiancé wants to wait for a year after marriage to start trying but I have a feeling we’ll start sooner than the year mark. Ideally I’d like us to buy our first home before we’re pregnant so we’ll see how everything plays out!

View Quoted Comment That’s such a good plan. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding

View Quoted Comment See that’s a good plan! I want to do that so bad!

View Quoted Comment Same here. My fiancé wants to start now though.

View Quoted Comment I meant husband. Whew! Still taking some time to get use to saying that