Having children

View Quoted Comment Agreed. Totally

View Quoted Comment See that’s what I want to do

View Quoted Comment Congratulations! Are you two on the same page or are you wanting to wait a little longer?

We both knew very early on that we wanted kids together, and a lot of them (6 or 7). What kind of solidified that for us was a pregnancy scare about 3 months into our relationship.

We've both agreed that we want to be more financially stable and have a bigger apartment before we try for kids, but last night he came up with a totally unexpected timeline. I mentioned how 2018 was our first Christmas as a couple, and 2019 will be our first Christmas living together, then 2020 will be our first Christmas married. He then added that 2021 will be our first Christmas free from jobs, and 2022 will be our first Christmas with a baby!!

So I guess in 2022 I'm getting pregnant!

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I don't want any more. I have an 11 yo daughter, and will be 38 by the time we get married.

My husband and I have always talked about when we would even consider having kids and I pretty much said I wanted to enjoy my 20s.

We talked about this I would say 6 months to a year into our relationship. We were in college when we started dating, so the kids talk wasn't even on our mind. He gave me a promise ring around the year mark for Christmas, and we talked about it then. He's an only child and knew that he wanted a few kids. I told him I definitely want more than two because I don't want them to grow up not liking their sibling like I did. We agreed on four. Our timelines are a little off. I would like to have kids sooner than him. But we both agreed that by 32 we'll be done so that way at 50 hopefully all the kids are out of the house.

View Quoted Comment I want to wait a little longer.... some days. Lol

We talked about this before we got married and made sure our timelines matched. But at the end of the day you can plan all you want but no one has any idea how long it’s going to take. Some people get pregnant right away and others try for years and need medical intervention. So we’ve discussed a timeline but also remind each other that we will be able to get through whatever happens.

This has been an ongoing and ever evolving conversation for us. We will accept anywhere from 0-2 children, whatever God blesses us with. I will not put my body through IVF, so that is not an option for us. We are on the fence with adoption. I work in the field and would like to have a solid work/home balance so that would depend on where my career is at and H agrees. Right now, our plan is to start trying a few months after our 3rd wedding anniversary, so roughly two years from now. We would ideally like to have them 3/4 years apart (to minimize the time we have 2 kids in daycare at the same time because $$$$$, the child’s psychological development, and to minimize the stress on my body/career) and I want to be done having kids by the time I’m 35. We have recently decided that we will stop trying at 34, even if we don’t have two children. I’m only 26 now so we have plenty of time.

We discussed children during our dating phase. We wanted to make sure we were on the same page as to what we each saw for our futures. We just got married October 5th and decided several months before our wedding that we would start trying for a baby one year after being married. We are a same sex couple, so we have a bit more planning to do than some other couples.

With my first husband we waited almost 2 years before having the child discussion and trying for a baby. We got pregnant right away. With DH we had the "do you want more kids" talk early in our relationship and the answer was no as I cannot have more. We did talk about possibly adopting when we are in a better place house and money wise. Also a discussion that we had prior to the wedding.

We started discussing kids within weeks of moving in together. Not because we’re ready but because we started a home and needed to align our thoughts. Now that we’re engaged, we’re seriously talking about it more and our plans for pregnancy.

View Quoted Comment Okay. I get what you’re saying. I understand completely

View Quoted Comment Smart move

View Quoted Comment That’s so good! Some days I want to wait. Others I’m like yeah. Sure

We started having the kids discussion a year before we were engaged.

We've been talking about it for years. We've been married less than 2 months.

However, now that we're married, and some things have shifted financially, we're talking *very* seriously about them. Then again, I'm in my mid-30s, so we have to be quick about it.

My fiancé and I have been engaged for 10 months and its a regular conversation since I’m turning 28 and he’s turning 29. I come at it from a place of how many do we want and how old we will be having our last . We’re both finishing up in school and I’ll have my masters in 2021and my career is taking off right now so the idea of soon is scary but the idea of waiting too long is also. He’s supportive either way as he wants children and wants me to have my dream career

We have been in a relationship for 5 years and started the conversation around year 3. More of the basics, the I want to keep this tradition or parent this way differently than how your/my parents did it. But since weve been engaged we've had the real conversation of when to stop not trying (he's from a catholic family and I am not). We both decided that we want to travel and save for our family so we are looking at waiting a few years after our wedding. Focus on us and move into a larger home. Save for a baby and then move forward.

However my FH is a big softy and I've watched him play with some of our friends kids and talk about how he cant wait to have a little one tottling around of his own❤. Melts my heart!