Having maids pay for make up?

If you aren’t requiring it, you are not required to pay for it. I’ve made it known to my girls the salon we are going to and the prices for both services and they will choose if they want it or not, and pay accordingly.

View Quoted Comment What wording did you use for this? I’m struggling so hard... I’ll be paying for their hair, but makeup will be optional if they want it

If you are requiring both, pay for both.

Hair and make up can be expensive. I am
always in the leave it optional unless you pay team.

I chose to pay for their hair & makeup because they’re agreeing to give me the huge honor of standing next to me at my wedding, have helped me along the way, and they’re my closest friends. I would never expect them to pay for anything related to the wedding because.....it’s MY wedding. So many brides forget that they’re doing YOU a favor, not the other way around.

I'm not requiring my bridesmaids to have their makeup professionally done. 3 out of 4 of my bridesmaids live locally where my wedding will be. Therefore, I told them that they are more than welcome to use their personal hair stylist and makeup artist. Or to use the ladies who will be doing my services. Or to do it themselves. Whatever they are most comfortable with.

View Quoted Comment Ok the read your statement please. I am a girly girl I love make up and dresses. I am getting my make up done for my wedding. But your statement is not ok to make. Oh by the way 61 buck for hair and make up you are pretty funny. Try 170 and that’s the cheap end.

View Quoted Comment So if they can’t afford it they can’t be your bridesmaid?

You can cover the cost of hair or makeup if you want, but if you aren't paying for both, then whatever you don't pay for should be optional. I personally think it's tacky to require a bridesmaid to get hair and makeup, but then not pay for both yourself. Wedding services are a lot more expensive in general, and by the time the wedding happens bridesmaids have already spent money on bridal showers or gifts, bachelorette party, a dress, shoes, travel costs, taking off work, wedding gift etc. for your big day. If your HMU person is too pricey for you to be able to afford their services for the bridesmaids, there's a good chance it'll be too pricey for them also.

I gave mine the option. So far, one has said they will do their own makeup and will pay for their hair to be done and the other said that opposite. If you are requiring a certain hairstyle or makeup look, then I wouldn't recommend forcing them to pay.

I would recommend talking to them individually to see how they feel/whether it is an expense they can afford.

All but one of my BM are into makeup and wear it on a daily basis. They’ll be responsible for doing their own (or each other’s) makeup. I feel bad enough that they have to buy shoes, dress, other accessories because at the end of the day...it’s not their fault I’m getting married lol. Making it a requirement would only be useful if none of them know the first thing about makeup

View Quoted Comment No, I didn't say that. At all. They can either do their own hair and makeup or pay for it to be done. It their choice. My friendship isn't based on how rich or poor they are. I'm not that kind of person.

I trust my friends and know that they can fix their hair nice enough for a wedding. They look beautiful with and without makeup. They'll look beautiful when I get married either way

Yes, mine are paying for their own hair and makeup if they choose to have it done.

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The bride who offered to pay for hair but not makeup said something like this:

"Hey ladies, I'd love to pay for you all to get your hair professionally done for the wedding. If you want your makeup done as well just let me know. The cost for makeup would be around $$ if you want it."

No one felt put out by it and I think we all decided to do our own makeup, but this was a great way to let us know the services were available at our own cost.

The way I did it with my girls was "Let me know if you'd like your hair and/or makeup done professionally for the wedding. Here are the costs (sent photo of price list) if you want to do either, but neither is required!" Most of them chose to at least have their hair done.

I think it's fine as long as you make it optional. If it's required, don't make them pay.