He dislikes my daughter and doesn't want to get married anymore

Run lili, run far away with you and your daughter and take him to court for reimbursement of the loan.

Hun, Please leave his sorry behind! You and your kids deserve way better than that. Please do this for them

I think a couple PPs mentioned this but make sure to gather ALL RECEIPTS from the house model. Tally everything you spent on it and get a lawyer. You have 2 children to support and he clearly didnt care about any of you. Good luck!!

I once made the mistake of putting a man before my children and its something I will regret until the day I die. Don't be like I was. My boys are grown now but it took a while to repair our relationship. No man is worth it.

Seem like he was just looking for someone to use money wise in getting his house repaired . Don't let anyone come between your daughter and you thqat relationship is forever, many men are around that is your daughter. It seems also like he doesn't care if he can teel you, you can continue to spent your money but he want nothing to do with anything. Stop paying for all the house repairs count your losses and move on.

You and your daughter are a package deal. Get out.

I'm an attorney in GA and don't specialize in real estate in the slightest or have any actual experience with it, but I agree completely with @earias and @Meaghan M.

You need to speak to a lawyer immediately. The only caveat I'd add to what everyone else is saying is this- from what I read I didn't see that he's being physically abusive or that you are concerned for your physical safety. (If you are and I missed it then ignore this) as a result, while my ultimate advice is run, don't leave before speaking with an attorney. On occasion some of these tricky property related laws be impacted by who had the property/ occupation/ etc. I'd say make plans to speak with an attorney today or tomorrow and plan to leave based on their advice.

The pain you will most likely experience over time by staying with this jerk will be much worse than the pain of leaving him now. Do whats best for yourself and your sweet daughters by getting out of that relationship. You are worth so much more.. lots of love and hugs to you.

Hon please don't stay it isn't worth it.

If he refuses counseling, then he wants out period. He's using your daughter as a excuse. I can't imagine anyone not wanting to at least try & fix something before calling it quits

I am a mom of two kids and my fiancé is the father of 2 kids. Both of us made sure we were in it for the long hall prior to even introducing our kids. If he doesn't accept your daughter he doesn't accept you. When your a parent you are a packaged deal and it's all or none. I think you need to start looking to get yourself out of this situation and move on. Do not pay for anything for this wedding. Also whatever you do don't allow any one to come in between you and your kids. Sorry no one is worth losing your children.

I don't recommend you putting anymore money into this relationship. Contact an attorney to see if there's any way you can get out of this loan - probably not, but it wouldn't hurt to have a free consultation and ask.

It's wrong for him to give you and your daughter an ultimatum. Please consider your daughter first and let him know she's your priority. My daughters are grown and I'm learning about all of the things they watched me do that's shaping their lives. My guess is that your daughter is watching your relationship as well and her future relationships will probably be influenced by yours. Try to find the strength to show her that this isn't normal or healthy.

Good luck! I'm so sorry this is happening.

I have a 13 year old daughter. I'm sorry but I'd have to walk away. A child always comes first. He is very immature shallow & foolish.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I dated a lot of men who couldn't deal with my son but I did eventually find a guy who loves him. Anyone who can't love your kids and accept them can fuck right off. Sage advice from the lawyers here ... don't move out until you've consulted with an attorney. As long as you're in the house, you've got leverage. I hope it all works out for you.

He sounds manipulative. It's a no from me.

I agree with everyone on you getting out. But get yourself and your daughter into counseling/ therapy ASAP. You mentioned "how much she loves him" and you do NOT want to watch her go through this and repeat history when she's grown and doesn't know what a healthy relationship looks like. Much love to you both, and good luck.

I'm sorry that this is happening to you and your daughter but your kid are way more important than any man if he cant expect her he cant have you yall are a package...you may have to cut your losses on the house things that you got but is that worth staying and subjecting your daughter to him i would be out so fast

Yes i have a kid,yes I've had to deal with this myself (before anyone ask) i wouldn't do any counseling with him (how will that change the way he feels about her) i wouldnt waste anymore time then i already have

Rejecting your daughter is a deal breaker. If he refuses counseling, I don't see where you have any other option except leaving. My heart aches for you and your girls. This guy sounds like a real d-bag. Instead of deposits for a wedding, put the money toward 1st and last months rent!

Please walk away. I grew up with a mother who put my abusive father ahead of us and it was a nightmare.

Lawyer up girly