Hello Ladies,
First of all, sorry for my English. English is not my first language so hope you to understand if there is any grammar errors on my writing.
I'm not American but he is. I have never lived in the US and I don't have American friends. I really want the advice from someone and I found this site..Here is the story : We met each other in my country almost 2 years ago. Right after he deployed to another county where it is very close to my country (2 hours flight). We liked each other and decided to do long distance. Meanwhile, I visited to the US when he was back to the states from the deployment and spent a month, few days.
Last December, he proposed me and we started to prepare the fiancee visa. And he is now on the deployment. Two weeks ago, we were planning on our actual ceremony in the US and he told me that he was not sure about the marriage yet and wanted to spend time more as normal couples since we have 90 days for court house marriage after me entering to the US. I accepted that and I understood him that we didn't have change to live before the marriage.
However, last night he called me and he wanted to call off the that visa & engagement but keep the relationship and asking me to enroll the language school in the US which is very expensive. He asked me "Would you rather end this relationship or try language school?" But honestly, I never ever thought about me studying again also, I don't want to spend my money on studying especially "English". And now he is saying to find another option.
I'm LOST. do you all think that I'm selfish? What should I do?
Thank you for reading..