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He wants to postpone... :(

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Anonymous, on March 22, 2011 at 3:28 PM

It's 3 months till our wedding and my fiance told me he wants to postpone for a year or 2... He feels like I can be happier with someone else, that we've grown apart, he's not ready for commitment (even though we've been engaged for 1 1/2, and dated 2 years b4 that!), but yet he says we can still "date"...? I need some advice.. how do you go back to dating? Or can you? He's the man I wanted to share my life with, but now I think I'll be afraid he'd do this to me again. I asked if he still loved me..and he says "when we were happy." He's never voiced any concerns wtih me b4, we've had the normal rough spots and that's it. We even did premarital counseling! please help.. I don't know whether to give a second chance or just try to move on without him even though it's not what i wanted. If you or someone has been in a similar situation please share with me!

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Anonymous · on May 3, 2011 at 11:41 PM
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Myself physically sick. I hope that this is the right things b/c it just doesn't feel like it. Him and his family act like this is no big deal and it happens every day. That really doesnt help anything to me. I just wish he couldve said something to me about it b4 i ordered everything but oh well i guess. He also is acting like I never existed.. I just don't understand it. Hes told me the whole "u didn't do anything wrong, it's me." but it just doesn't help. I try to tell myself that i wasn't 100% happy b4 b/c he did always put me last and I dont think it ever would've changed b/c he thought there was nothing wrong with it. I'm afraid this makes me sound needy but I'm really not that way at all. He just literally couldn't do anything if it wasn't revolved around work. Still hurts something fierce though. Thanks for allt he adivce .. if you have any on how to get over something/grieve please share. I'm just not good at "loosing ppl." Had a friend who passed away from a car wreck and
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Anonymous · on May 3, 2011 at 11:42 PM
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Haven't dealt well with it since then. I just feel like some days I can't breathe or even get out of bed. I'm trying to put faith in God but this decision just doesn't feel right at all.
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