Head Table for Large BP and Possibly 1s?

I don't like head tables for that very reason. We are doing sweethearts

We are having a head table with all of our BP...for their dates/spouses/SO we are putting them at tables with people they know..EX. I worked with one of my BM's husbands..he will be sitting with others that worked with us. We also plan to throw a bridal party BBQ prior to the wedding so that the other +1's can get to know each other.

Maybe I'm old school but I like a traditional head table. Ours will just be our wedding party with no spouses. All of my married bp members are not vitally linked to their spouses and require them for survival lol and they have friends/family attending so they will live! It's literally one meal and a few speeches! We are seating spouses with people they know. We are even inviting a few people who wouldn't technically make our list just to ensure non of our bridal party spouses will be seated w strangers during dinner. The way I see it, the people fh and I chose to stand up for us are the nearest and dearest to us. Their spouses are not. We want to eat our first meal as a married couple with our fave people! We sure as heck do not want to be sitting alone! Ugh! And, this to me, is just another part of being a bm/gm. Not as huge of a deal as some ww people make it out to be honestly.

We are also doing a King's table. We will have 22 at the table, including myself and FH.

I have 6+5 in my bridal party, including us that's 13. And I am going to do all or nothing with everyone getting a +1 (you want them to have fun too!). BUT I hate the idea of a sweetheart table, definitely not my thing. So we will either do one of these options:

1. Get a super long king table to fit us all (potentially 24 people)

2. Have only best men/maid of honor & guests at the table with us and a second bridal party table

Theres no way I'm doing a sweetheart table but I really hope I can pull off the logistics of option #1. Definitely do not make your guests sit separately from their dates. How will the dates feel sitting around a bunch of strangers they potentially have no ties to? But I do feel the struggle of figuring out how to make the logistics work.

We're having a King's Table with about 24 people - all of our bridal party, their spouses/Plus-Ones. We didn't want a Sweetheart Table AT ALL and all of our bridal party want to sit with us since we're all so close so it was a perfect solution.

1. Is it an all or nothing with the BPs' 1s? Yeah, we extended plus ones to all of the bridal party

2. Should I give them all the option to sit with their 1? (if we are not having plus 1s at the head table) i would definitely give them the option

3. What if they all want to sit with plus 1s and then we are left with a sweatheart table (which isn't something I would personally enjoy)? i'm not sure because I wanted to avoid this as well.

I'm trying to figure out my head table as well. I don't want to do a sweetheart table because we are both very social and like to talk to people plus its our speecial day we want to share the meal together with our families and friends, However My bridal party is huge we have 26 (8 bridesmaids & groomsmen 2MOH & 2BM 3 flower girls & 3 ring bearers) plus the 2 of us brings the count to 28 but I also wanted to include our parents and grandparents to the head table which would be a total of 39 people. All the couples in my bridal party are married except for 4 which are single so the plus 1 is not even an issue my issue is how do I make a head table that big. I thought of doing either a U shape to fit everyone or 2 head tables. I need opinions, thoughts, ideas