Help!! Best mans foot

Other than making sure he's logistically comfortable getting down the aisle (and maybe sitting instead of standing, depending on his preference--talk to him and ask him what would make him most comfortable), I'd 100% have him wear whatever medical boot/shoe he's been given by a doctor, and walk down with the crutches he was given.

I wouldn't have him wear anything other than what's been prescribed to him--the photos aren't nearly as important as him healing properly.

I'd definitely say this isn't something to stress about.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! He won’t go to a doctor which why I’m needing suggestions but 100% agree with you.


I also didn’t mean to say ruin pictures but rather meant not have his stick out like a sore thumb lol.
Thank you again for your advice!

I would talk to him to see what he is comfortable doing when it comes to walking down the aisle and standing during the ceremony. I wouldn't have your brother step in as bridal party members shouldn't be treated as interchangeable. As for pictures, maybe your photographer can be creative with photos. I've included some inspiration photo ideas that you might be able to share with your photographer.

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Oh yikes. Very off topic (and sorry) but that's... really dumb of him. I knew a girl back in college who got her foot run over by a bus before a formal and she still went to the formal/didn't go to the doctor because she "felt fine." Her foot's screwed up to this day, and likely won't ever heal properly.

Beyond that, I don't think a sock would be tacky. Whatever he can wear (hopefully a boot!) would be best. Veronica's photo posing suggestions are great.

I went to a wedding where the Matron of Honor had a chair directly behind where she was standing so she could sit durring the ceremony. That worked just fine. As for crutches, boot, etc. I am not much help but definitely make sure he is comfortable.

View Quoted Comment I agree 100%.
His health should be more important than a desired look.

One of our groomsmen broke both wrists in a motorcycle accident a week out from our wedding.

Of course, that isn't a mobility issue like breaking a foot, but as far as pictures go, he had huge casts on both arms/hands. Our photographer was careful with how/where he was posed and how she took candid pictures of him to minimize how visible they were. I think there is only one or two photos where you can see them.

If the socks are black, that is fine. No one will notice. Same with the crutch. See if you can arrange for a seat for him at the altar. Don't attempt to give any medical device that hasn't been explicitly prescribed (such as a walking boot) because that could do more damage, especially if he hasn't actually visited a doctor. Just leave it with the black socks.

If he would be uncomfortable going without a shoe altogether, you could also look into shoes designed for edema (swollen feet) - there are many "wrap" styles that will look like a regular shoe from a distance, but are designed for going on swollen feet and ankles.

I would go with a sock that would blend the most or the boot! Maybe even cut the shoe in half and attach the top of the shoe to his sock 🤷🏼‍♀️. Yes it would ruin the shoe, but would totally help blend it! That’s probably the route I’d go with. Maybe even buy a cheaper pair for the wedding that look just as nice ?

I would ask him what he's comfortable with as you don't want him in pain during the ceremony. Since he's the best man and not just a groomsman is probably really important to your fiance that he be there with him. As far as the boot, is it really going to make or break your photos? Isn't it more important that he be in them? I think we put too much pressure on ourselves to make everything perfect but what makes the day is our friends and family. Don't stress you got this! 😁

I really wouldn’t stress about this. As long as he comfortable and can safely make it from point A to B. If he’s able to wear a colored sock that blends in, that might be your best bet. I don’t think a cane can replace crutches if he can’t put any weight on the injured foot.

It’s not tacky to do whatever it takes to make him comfortable. If he needs crutches, that’s crutches. If he needs no shoe, that’s no shoe. If you don’t want it to pop in pictures, just have him wear any regular sock that is the same color as the shoes the others are wearing.

Make sure you have a place for him to sit during the ceremony. It would be really crappy to make him stand the whole time. Your photographer will have plenty of ideas on how to make your pictures look fine with different poses and stuff. Don't overthink this.

1) Don't replace a member of your wedding party just because they no longer "look the part". It's insulting. Plus this is the BEST MAN. He is significant and important to your FH and should be included and be there for your FH on his big day.

2) Make sure the groomsmen is comfortable and adjust your procession and ceremony slightly if needed to include him in a way that is safe. Maybe he doesn't process and just greets you all at the head of the ceremony site, maybe he sits instead of stands during the ceremony. You can still include him and make small adjustments without it ruining the day or your wedding aesthetic.

3) Let him use whatever medical devices have been provided by his doctor. A boot or brace is fine. Crutches are fine. Don't attempt to replace medical devices with substitutes just because they look better.

4) Give your photographer a heads up about the situation so that they can start planning some creative photo ideas. They'll be more prepared and have a wider variety of solutions if they are not caught off guard and trying to pivot the day of your event.

5) Don't majorly stress about this. Its not a useful emotional response in this case and will only make you, the Best Man, and your FH feel worse about the situation without actually solving anything. Make a few small adjustments and enjoy your day, and let your FH and his bestie have bonding moments too.

For walking down the isle, the best man is normally standing next to the groom for the whole service. The maid of honor walks alone. Not that this HAS to be done-- that is just what I have seen done. So he doesn't have to crutch down the isle except to exit.

I think if he is the type of guy who refuses to go to the doctor, then he may be the type of guy who will suffer through standing in the ceremony rather than sitting. If not, then maybe something like a barstool would look better than him sitting in a chair.

I'm sure pictures will be doable and a good photographer can help with editing and posing.

I think it is safe to say that this won't be this guy's favorite day lol and he will probably struggle.

To have your brother do family seating, which is in the? prelude, then sit with family, then have this groomsman take his place beside Groom entering from side front between prelude and side front, most common would be the most common thing, as most people do not walk GM in the procession. Others have GM line up to come down the aisle with the procession. That is up to you. I would think entering and standing down front with the groom would be easiest . I would think that he could wear a black sock with a stretch fake fur bootie most easily, as you could buy one, or make to size with velcro in minutes. Cane, 1 crutch, or two depends on how stable he is. Family escorts, brothers, uncles, cousins, are most often chosen rather than GM to do grandparents and parents just for sentiment, no injury involved, so it is a very easy substitute.

Oh man. I don't have any suggestions for you but I'm basically on the same boat.
My fiance just tore a tendon in his knee while playing with our dogs and we're only 5 weeks away from the wedding. At the moment we're not sure if he'll need surgery, but he can't bend his leg or stand/walk without crutches. I'm just hoping that in 5 weeks he makes a miraculous recovery, but who knows.
It happens. It may not be picture perfect the way you imagined it but it'll be a story to remember and a laugh shared and time spent with loved ones (even when they make dumb choices!)

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Yes, absolutely this.

Thank you so much everyone for your suggestions. This helped tremendously! He was in the accident months ago and wouldn’t go to the doctor but still needed these ideas! Y’all are the best 😃

I'd be much more concerned that he's physically able and willing to still be in the wedding than I would be about what he's wearing. It'd be kind of mean to have your brother bump him, especially if your brother isn't already a groomsman. Others have already said they've been to weddings where there were chairs or stools for someone to sit. I don't see how that would be harmful. If you're worried that a crutch might be too awkward, what about a nice walking stick? I think you could at least ask him about the walking boot just to see if he'd be comfortable wearing it, but I wouldn't make a big issue out of it. The more important thing is that he's there with you guys.

View Quoted Comment Ok this is kind of bad. If he was hurt months ago, has not had medical attention, and still having trouble walking, he should really see a dr. He could have damaged his leg for the rest of his life!
I know it’s expensive to see a dr, but this is dangerous for him!