Help! COVID positive bridesmaid

View Quoted Comment I just re read the website and there is not a testing alternative for traveling into NY from one of the states on our governors list. It also states upon exiting the air plane travelers are to fill out a form where they will be staying for the next 14 days in quarantine. she plans to not fill this out and sneak by the table were the forms go. If people travel by other means of transportation (car,bus,train,etc) your supposed to print a travel form. If “caught” they can be subjected to a $5,000-$10,000 fine. And the specific job me and my FH due are very strict. I cannot even leave the state myself during COVID unless it’s for medical reasons. I’m just trying to brainstorm and see what others say that don’t know the situation and are looking in as an “outsider”.

If I were in your shoes, I would not allow her to come. Way too risky given your immunocompromised family members, plus she would be violating the travel advisory mandated by your state. I would have her participate via live stream instead.

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I agree with Maggie on this one! She seems to be hell-bent on attending the wedding, no matter what. And the "no matter what" is pretty startling in this case.

I would absolutely not let her come! I understand she wants to be there for you, but she is acting reckless. She wants to slide by the table and bypass the requirement for the travel form. What else is she going to bypass.


In the end if it is between her being there or your family members? I would hazard a guess that your family are more important. So explain that if she comes family wouldn’t. So you need to Ask her to stay home!

Oh, sorry to hear this. Tough situation. But health and safety of your loved ones comes first. Getting her re-tested about 3 more times seems like the only option, and she must get negatives and clearance from a certified health professional...but probably the most rationale thing to do is just have her stay home. Good luck on what your decision is!