Help!! Eloping Today, Bridal Shower Later?

As long as your honest with everyone that you're already married, if someone wants to throw you a shower because you never got one, there's nothing wrong with that

First, congratulations! Second, I think a lot will depend on your friends & family. Several of mine are traditional and have strong opinions about what etiquette is. I'm not creating a registry because I'm 32 and "should have everything I need by this point". But, I think with the right wedding party and family they would definitely do something for you. They could even theme it to be post-nuptial, if they wanted.

A lot of people have done this over the past year! Small ceremony/elope now, and postponing the larger wedding/bridal showers/bachelorette party until later, when COVID restrictions aren't as strict. I would be honest with your guests that you are already married, but with COVID restrictions in place, most people should be understanding of why things are done a little out of order. Congratulations on your wedding today!! Enjoy your day!

As others have said, as long as people know you’re married it’s totally fine to still accept a bridal shower if someone is wanting to host one for you.

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I second this.

I agree with everyone else that if someone offers to throw you one, it's fine to accept their gift. But this rule is the same no matter what order you do things: it's not OK to ask for someone to throw you a party.

This questions us geode me so much. I got eloped information of our parents in July 2021 and our “big ceremony” is on our 1 yr anniversary. We did just what was enough to be legal and so we never got to do our own vows due to time restrictions due to our situation.


I was so worried about having a bridal shower and party. But also I’ve been very open about the legal marriage and all my friends and family agree that it’s perfectly fine to have a ceremony later but was worried about the shower.