We have been living with each other for 3 years, neither of us really cared about getting married (didn't have the religion aspect, nothing would really change what we already were doing). Until a couple weeks ago it was brought up and turns out we both had it in the back of our minds that getting married would be nice. We had a nice little discussion and decided that we would. Picked out some nice unique rings from etsy, told our families and started planning.
He said he didn't really care, told me to do what I wanted, his only stipulation was that he didn't want a large, traditional wedding (neither did I)
So far, we're inviting just family (under 40 guests), having it in my parents back yard (v. nice yard with a willow tree and a woods), no religion aspect of it, just a small "I do" and some food and drinks afterwards.
TODAY (at the ducking laundromat no less) he gets a little pissy with me, and says how I'm planning a traditional wedding with "lots" of people. Apparently he wants to literally go to the courthouse with two random witness and get married there and have a small party/reception afterwards. There's nothing wrong with this, but I want there to be at least *something special and personal about it. I'm close to my family and they are all very excited we are getting married and want to be a part of it!
When I tried to ask him how we'd compromise this, he just shrugged and said he didn't know.
Any ideas how to go about talking about this? Or how we could compromise? I figured my idea was already pretty small and intimate. I also think it's quite rude to invite these people to the celebration, but not to the "ceremony" (whole reason why we'd be celebrating)
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