HELP! How did you choose your maid of honor.

We can't tell you what's the right answer. It's hard to choose between good friends. Some people have 2 MOH's. I would consider doing that if you can't decide.

I chose the one friend of them all who accepts and loves me as I love her, no matter what. I chose the friend who I could count on to stand by my side through all of this. The other ladies should not take offense and if they do, too bad. Go with your gut but think about it for a little bit first just to make sure you are not acting on impulse.

If you chose your sister I am sure your long time friend would understand and would still be happy to be a BM.

However, if you chose your friend do you think your sister will be as understanding? You know your sister better than we do but I have seen many occasions where siblings weren't chosen and it caused hurt feelings. It just depends on your relationship.

I couldn't make up my mind between my sister in law, who I am very close with, and my best friend. So I decided not to. I have two matrons of honor. One of them had a baby last m onth, so that has worked out well, that she is sharing her duties. I will have 1 of them walk out of the ceremony with the best man, and then the other will be escorted by him into the reception.

In your case I would do your sister. unless your family is estranged I think it is always best to go with family. i went with my sister because I didn't want to hurt any of my friends feelings. All of my BM I've known since elementary school, and I'm very close to all of them.

I have 2 sisters and very few chick friends but because I am not even remotely close to my sisters, I invited my FH's brother's current GF to be my MOH, they have been together for quite a long while, and we spend a lot of time together, I haven't known her very long but she is the closest thing I have to a sister (other than my sisters who aren't really in my life, by no fault of their own)

I had 2 choices as well - my BFF who I had known since I was 13 and my sister who I'm not super close to but because she's my sister I wanted her to be in the wedding...I actually ended up choosing the both of them...my BFF is my maid of honor and my sister who will be married by time I get married will be my matron...if you truly can't decide there's no harm in choosing the both of them if they both mean something to you they can split the responsibilities as well

Thank everyone for all your opinion and your advice. I will think about it , both are special to me well maybe i will considered both of them MOH or let say BY HEART THEY WILL BE MY MAID OF HONOR (: hope i will decide before july 21 .

Thank for sharing your story guys , i really appreciate =)

I have my sister as Matron of honor because she is married and my best friend since childhood as maid of honor! good luck hun...im sure you will make the right decision.

I chose my friends, they have no obligation to be there for you, no blood ties etc, but they are loving you, supporting you, happy for you etc.

If you have a good relationship with ur bff i say that you should choose your friend, after all your sister will have a huge role to play none-the-less and will be ever so proud and supportive of you.

I only have my MOH, she's my sister so it was a no brainer there for me...it all depends on who you trust more with the job of being MOH, are they reliable? can they meet you expectations of a MOH? or are they going to flake out on you every chance they get and possibly blow up on you before the wedding and drop out?

My sister is my MOH and my friends definitely understand. Your friends will DEFINITELY understand if you chose her.

I had two friends that I couldn't decide between so I just decided to ask them both to be my matron of honors. They gladly accepted! If one of them is married and one is single you could have one maid of honor and one matron of honor. Either way, if you love them both and want both of them to act as maids of honor then I say go for it! it's your wedding

I chose my friend that i have known for about ten years, we get along great! I have two sisters that are too young so this was the perfect choice! I know your sister would be really hurt, and i know your friend would completely understand!

I have two daughters and couldn't choose between the two, So I have to MOH's. They are both grown with children of there own. When I was single and they was young we went through alot together and they called us the three musketeers. I also have two sisters but one of them won't even be at the wedding. goes to show you how close we are.

My sister was my MOH at my first wedding. At my second wedding, my daughter was my MOH and my son was my "dude of honor." Personally, I favor having a family member as MOH. A sister or daughter will likely be in your life forever, whereas friends may drift apart over the decades. However, you really need to make your own decision on this--no one else can decide for you what is most important.

This was a no brainer for me - It's my daughter. But my DIL and Son will also be in the wedding party - they don't get off that easy.

I chose m y best friend over my sister and she is doing the same with absolutely no hurt feelings. My sister and I weren't close until later in life and my BFF has been there since we were 5 so it made more sense for me personally to have her as my maid of honor. Also, if one is married and the other is not then you can have a matron and maid of honor

Uknow it wouldnt be a bad idea if you chose both of the especially if they know each other i mean everything for you is going to be twice as good even the bachlorett party if they throw you one

You dont have to have a maid of honor they can both just be bridesmaids. On the other hand I think your sister would understand if you want your bestie to be your MOH but I dont know you all's relationships. But youd better make a decision quick missy your wedding day is coming! LOL Im sure everything will turn out for the best dont stress.