I am a Junior college student who got engaged on August 21st, 2021. Before I got engaged I just dreamed of having a wedding so when I got engaged. I didn't want to start planning until later on. But, classmates asked if I started a Pinterest board which was NO! then they told me to make one since every bride has one. I made a Pinterest board for my wedding then I started adding to it. However, before the Pinterest board, one of my friends told me to make a WeddingWire account as she has one but, not engaged or married (if you knew her, you would understand). Then, I already looked at the venue that me and my FH are getting married at, way in advance so, I booked an appointment with them. Then, I figured since it booked a lot of stuff can start moving so we did the wedding colors, theme, guest list (but kinda did that before the booking of the venue) and, I looked at vendors since I read from discussions on here that COVID is filling stuff up quick from the postponing of weddings. Now, I can not stop looking at messages, guest list, and doing the wedding website. I mostly plan when I get bored or stressed from studying. Any tips to calm down on the planning?
My anxiety kicks in during planning as I know someone will take over.
My FH's mom thinks she can take over the wedding planning and thinks wedding planning happens overnight, she got married twice so she should know it does not happen overnight. She thought we sent out the wedding website already when it is not done. She thought everyone knew about the date even though the save-the-dates are not sent out yet either. Lastly, she thought she could invite anyone that she wanted to her son's and future daughter-in-law's wedding. I told her to stop as we are strictly guest count, telling everyone by save-the-dates and the wedding website will be on the save-the-dates and invitations but, she got upset when I told her to stop. However, knowing her she will keep taking over the wedding.
But, is it true that mom's help with the planning or is that an excuse for her to help me as she takes it over?