Help... I don't want a gift registry.

I didn't want one either, in 1988, and back then it was "shocking" if you didn't have one, lol! I'm not one for "stuff" being a sustainable person.

My dear MIL pressured me to register for silver and china; I got her to back off the china, because I was being gifted her mother's china. But, she insisted I register for silver (I don't like cleaning silverware!!!). We got one serving spoon - lol!!!

You do what's right for you.

I'm not wild about registries, either. I see their function; I just find them really impersonal from both directions. I would love it if, when going to a wedding, I was given general guidelines like color schemes or "kitchenware". You may end up coming out ahead this way, because people can get you things that they already know are useful and well made. There have been quite a few things if seen on registries where I was like "Ooh, I bought that same salad spinner, and it fell apart. They should have registered for the OXO one..." I think most people know to include gift receipts, so the worst that could happen is you get something you don't need and return it.

Have fun returning - or worse, trying to return and not being able to - random stuff you don't like!

People aren't REQUIRED to buy off your registry. They can buy you whatever they want. Its kind of like a wishlist, like you might give people for a birthday or Christmas. It just helps people who may not know you that well (like extended family) actually buy you things you want or need.....or will match your decor or taste....or not get like 10 toasters....

I'm not registering. FH and I are combining 2 households. We don't need anything, and if we do need something we need, we buy it ourselves. My personal opinion (and I know it's not a popular opinion at all!!!) is registering for gifts feels like begging. We don't want material items. If anything we want the gift of time with each guest after the wedding. We have explained our feelings to everyone who is invited to the wedding and we are not having any showers, so we don't have to worry about that.

Registries are a nice way of saying what you need instead of guests having to try and figure out what you want. Anyway if you're so unmateeialistic you wouldn't ask for cash.

First of all, registering is not rude or "asking for gifts". it is COMMON that when you get invited to a wedding, that you buy the couple a gift to recognize their milestone. So with that said, your guest list will be getting you something any way.

As a guest, i HATE giving people cash. I just don't like it. It feels impersonal and also the recipient knows exactly how much I spent..I just don't like to give cash....

Registries are just a guideline for your guests, guests do not have to purchase from it if they don't want to (and no bride should expect this either), but it is nice to know what the couple needs, wants and likes, and registries are just the best way to show your guest list this.

Yes, some guests who get invited to a wedding that doesn't have a registry do think of it as asking for cash.

I wasn't going to do one, but I had so many people ask that I did. I registered with HoneyFund, so people could put money towards a honeymoon, and then at Walmart, for some simple things for the house that we could use or replace.