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You should start by graduating high school.

I agree with Caitlyn. Focus on graduating high school. Enjoy this time. Enjoy the engagement. Save sone money and then start planning your wedding.

Graduate high school, go to college. If you two are still together in a few years the. Start thinking of saving for a wedding.

I say say this with the best intentions... I changed and grew up so much between 18 and 25 (I’m now almost 30) and I honestly thought the person I dated when I was 18 was who I would be with forever. We both grew up and apart. Don’t rush it, if you’re meant to be you’re relationship will last.

Agree with the others Finish highschool and enjoy that time of your life first.

I agree with what everyone else has said. Also, to add to that, it’s always good to be a financially independent individual prior to marriage.

Agreed. So much personal growth happens in adolescence and early adulthood. Even if you are an incredibly mature high school student, there is still going to be a significant amount of growth and personality development that will happen in the next few years (there is tons of research supporting this). Take the time to develop yourselves as individuals. If you are still together and interested in getting married in a few years, then go for it! You can consider this a long engagement or instead, he can give you a promise ring. There is no rush! I'm almost 30. My fiance and I have known each other since high school and have been dating for 6 years (I would have actually never even imagined dating him in high school and would have rejected him if he had asked me out then).

Graduate high school.
Work on going to college or getting jobs.
Establish yourselves and grow together.

Completely agree with all pp.

It is so important for your future happiness & quality of life to finish school (definitely high school and ideally college), get a job, become financially independent adult, and have your brain complete it’s development, before getting married. Before age 25 brain is still not fully developed, especially centers for rational thinking, judgement, and self-image. So you are not yet a person you will be when you are completely grown at 25 & it’s very hard juggling marriage when you’re still growing mentally & figuring out who you are.

Also, if you got engaged today, just enjoy your day, celebrate with your fiancé & be fully present in the moment, instead of being on a wedding planning forum lol. Being engaged is exciting, so enjoy it until all above happens & keep nurturing & growing your relationship in the meantime ❤️

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Thx im in 11th grade tho so y cant we start planning now

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Because you're a child. You haven't lived your life, I very highly doubt that you are financially independent, and unless you're an 18 year old junior, you cannot legally marry anyway.

View Quoted Comment Because you're a child.

Have you told your parents?

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Oh darling, why the rush? Enjoy life and enjoy young love! Take your time with this process and don't rush it! Definitely graduate high school and then make sure you are BOTH financially dependent before even starting the planning process. You will mature and change so much on the next few years, just give yourself time.

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No we are workin on it an i am 18 so yea

1st and foremost, graduate.
My 1st marriage was when I was 18 years old.
If you want an example of living proof as to what all the PP to be truly sound advice; I'm that proof.
I got engaged, and married after graduation because I thought he was it for me...and at the time he was...but as we got older. We wanted different things in life, and wanted different things for our marriage. We both grew to be different people. We ended our marriage amicably, and I always wish him the best. Have a LONG engagement...go to college. Meet new people...experience new things...if you 2 are still together then plan your wedding.

I got married at 18 after being with my boyfriend for almost two and a half years. We definitely grew apart and divorced when I was 28. We split up about a year and a half before that.

I do not regret it at all, but I definitely can see what happened. He was very comfortable and I wanted to grow and do things - take chances. Some relationships can work, but most of them fail because people end up wanting different things and morphing into different people - not even from each other, but also from the person you once were yourself.

Some of these comments are worded harshly because you feel in love, but I think you should wait too! There is no reason to rush something.

Like others have said, please wait. I'm almost 24 and marrying my fiance after nearly 5 years of being together. As a junior in high school, he id not the man I was sure I was gonna marry. It was fine in high school but once we graduated, it just wasn't right. You'll change so much. I went through and have now graduated college with the same man. Wait until you've really experienced life together. No need to rush. Enjoy being engaged.

One of my good friends was engaged at 18 and her and her fiance are now 21 and will marry in a few months. They graduated and she put herself through the nursing program as well. I grew up with majority of my friends having kids and getting married right around high school graduation but the most successful so far is the couple mentioned above. I'm a young fiancee as well so I understand where you're coming from. Always listen to your heart but also always use your instincts. I never imagined how much my life would change from 11th grade to now, for the better. Best of luck girl🙂

Congratulations on your engagement. I have a daughter who will be 17yrs old and if she was to get engaged I would hope that I would be the first person she would tell. Let your mother continue to guide you to becoming the strong woman you are destined to be. Family Over Everything 🖤💖 My mother wrote this in my year book "while climbing up the ladder of success don't stop until you succeed ". Baby girl live your best life !!!!. That is individual advice for you and whenever the time is right for you to get married make sure the foundation is strong because that is an important factor for a successful marriage.