Help! Microwedding?

I have had a lot of drama surrounding my wedding which made me want to elope, but my fiance and I talked and we had already put down deposits and our groomsmen and bridesmaids had already purchased their dresses. Have you already done both of those?

Yes, some family members were disappointed that I’m having a microwedding, but no one was offering funds, so I didn’t feel bad.
If you already sent invites then I don’t think you should back out now.

I think you’re making the right decision if you decide to do a microwedding. I recommend to everyone that there is no need to take out loans or go into debt for a wedding.

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We put down some deposits, but no dresses have been purchased outside the flower girl, and I funded that. We haven't even sent out our save the dates yet.

Do you regret going through with the larger wedding?

View Quoted Comment I have not had my wedding yet, but I think I would regret eloping. My fiance and I put deposits down o pretty much everything so it wasn't worth it to elope because we would have lost a lot of money. If you have not put down a lot of money and you're okay with losing that money then I would elope if that is truly what you want. If you have told your family and friends that you are eloping instead they may be disappointed, but you have to do what you think is best.

Yes we did!! We started planning a bigger wedding at 18 months out. At 10 months out we were over it. Changed just about all of it. Changed to a 25 person guest list and booked a gourmet italian reasuraunts banquet room for ceremony and reception. Fired original venue and did get our deposit back, fired DJ and lighting but did not get that deposit back. Kept our photographer, my stunning dress, FH ls custom tux.
We pretty much kept all the things that we wanted but just on a smaller scale. Saved loads of money and instead of going on our honeymoon a year later we r using the money to go on our honeymoon the day after our wedding. Making these major changes not only saved us money but it eliminated all kinds of stress and drama. We let people know directly that a change had been made.

My fh and I were originally planning a fairly large wedding with over 100 guests. At some point, we both got overwhelmed and planning haulted. Any mention of the wedding just gave me anxiety because I knew we were in over our heads.
We sat down one night and decided to do an elopement package with 15 of our closest people. We only lost out on 200 dollars for a deposit on a DJ which was unfortunate, but we are okay with it. We are both now very excited because its affordable and we can now enjoy the planning process.

I actually just went through the same thing a week ago. My FH and I had our venue booked like 2 years out from the wedding date. We lost our deposit on the venue which sucked. But in comparison to paying for this grandiose wedding, we felt so much relief. I felt it was worth it, we were stressed emotionally and financially. Now we're going to have a much smaller wedding for a fraction of the cost.

I was in the EXACT situation, we, or more so I, wanted to elope or have something REALLY small.

my fiancees family didn't really see eye to eye with that, and my family just got a little carried away lol. long story short. we literally asked like 80 people for their addresses, and sealed the envelopes, and payed for the deposits on everything. we thought about it and had a huge discussion, we ended up sending only 21 invitations (inviting 30 people only)

no shame from me what so ever. weddings should be about the couple not the guests. if all the deposits weren't already put on things, we would probably just cancel and elope but my parents generously paid for a lot of stuff and it feels awful letting their money go to waste.

me and my fiance are in our early 20's still and just trying to get life sorted out. we could justify spending all that money on one day- even with the smaller budget, i could not think straight with the fact all that money would be going to impressing guests pretty much.

We have been engaged since 12/17 and when I first started planning I was set on a traditional venue. I then started adding up the cost of everything and quickly realized I did not want to go in debt for a party. Our families are chipping in VERY minimally, like my father has given me 200 dollars. lol. Our friends graciously offered up their backyard and we accepted. It's still not cheap to host 40 people in a backyard, but it is WAY less expensive than booking a venue. I say if you aren't losing a ton of money on the deposit then go for it. The money and stress saved was totally worth it to us.

ME!!! Got engaged 12/16 - set a date for 6/18 and started planning. Bailed on that plan after deciding to purchase a house first. When we finalized things with the house and got back to planning, we realized marriage was important to us, not the wedding. Also, we're both introverts and a big wedding was more for our family than us. We've decided to do a micro wedding, 12 people, immediate family only with a friend officiating. I'm actually excited about it now where as before I was dreading the whole thing. And that is how I know I made the right choice for me.

We are having a micro wedding of 32 guests. At first we received a lot of negative comments about our decision but we decided to do what felt right to us. We are having a true wedding just on a smaller budget/scale and feel like we can really tailor it to each guest coming because we know them all very well. We still have issues with people wanting to "crash" or show up anyways though.

My brother planned a very small intimate wedding and they did not regret it at all. I think that because you are paying for it, you should do what makes you happy and comfortable. Especially if you do a bigger party afterwards, then I think less people will be offended. You already seem like you do not want to go through with the bigger wedding and you said it doesn't feel like it fits you. This is the biggest day of your life, make it your own, you won't regret it!