Looking for advice for handling a crazy controlling MIL....
My fiancé and I plan to get married in late 2020 in Italy. Italy is a very special place for us, I have family who live there, I studied there, and while on study abroad my FH visited me (we were only dating for 6 months at the time)...which ended up being our first of many wonderful vacations together !
ever since that trip We have dreamed of someday getting married in Italy. I have been telling friends and family (including future in-laws) for years of this dream so that there were no surprises when we got engaged and started planning an Italian wedding.
my Family has always been on board and are the type of people that will do whatever I want to do..because it’s our wedding after all! Once we got engaged and started seriously talking about Italy, my FH ‘s Mom was / is super against it (even though she married a man from Switzerland and had a wedding in the US and a wedding in Switzerland at the time). She tells me I need to be thinking of the people and that she can’t ask people to spend $2000 to come to our wedding. I responded by saying, well that’s what a destination wedding is. If people want to come, they’ll make it work. She then proceeded to call me selfish! Isn’t my wedding the one thing I can be selfish about?
Those comments happened a month ago, and last week we met with the future in-laws and we put together a PowerPoint of the pros and cons of destination weddings vs non- destination. We even listed out everything we want out of our wedding which includes al guests staying in same accomodations for 3 nights and it being more intimate that way...people getting to know each other. My FH’s mom then started crying and said were putting the location over “the people” for our wedding. We’ve already talked to most of our friends and family and they’re all on board with the idea!! The only people shooting us down in a time that is supposed to be happy and exciting, is the FH’s parents. My future mother - in - law even went so far as to email my FH a link to a local venue for the wedding...she knows we don’t want a local wedding!!! For many reasons, family and friends would still need to travel in and pay for their own accomodations if it was a local wedding. (In Italy we are providing accomodations)
i know this is a super long post but I am so frustrated and hurt that his parents would shoot down our hopes and dreams! And that they claim people wouldn’t be able to attend because of money/time off work etc. but everyone we’ve talked to and invited is 110% on board! Not one negative reaction was received ...
has as anyone been through this before with a controlling AF mother - in - law?!
looking for advice for dealing with her until the wedding and for the rest of life! Ugh!
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