So we're in the 60 day range of the wedding now, and I'm faced with a tiny conundrum. Both my fiancé and I love tradition, and are both very sentimental people in general but he is extremely unfamiliar with the traditional wedding norms, not because they are culturally foreign to him but just because he's not been through this process before (admittedly I haven't either, but I think I have a proclivity towards learning these things, by virtue of being the woman lol).
We both met as part of a writing group and it would be a great loss if we did not do sweet notes to each other on the morning of the wedding. I am also keen to do a small gift, such as a monogrammed tape measure or compass, only spending around $20 or so but definitely creating a gift for him that has lasting sentimental value.
I know the simple answer to all of this is "just talk with him", because believe me, I made that gaffe with leaving him to figure out the engagement ring, though I've grown to love what ultimately his mother picked out for me 
This time though, I want to do it right. We just have a great deal of stress coming up to the wedding, since he is arriving from out of country next month and about three weeks after that, we head to Vegas to get married.
Surely other brides have had grooms not well versed with the traditions, and have had to navigate clueing their men in. Is there an etiquette to doing this? I don't want to seem like I'm begging him to do extra. Even so, as an example of something similar when filling out our planner's questionnaire he did not know what a First Look was, and when I explained, he immediately said, "Oh yes, I'd want to do that."
So maybe I just drop it on him once he arrives here, and we can decide over the last three weeks. Thoughts?
