Help- my fiance wasn't given a plus one!

My FH and i have been together for 7 years now and last year his cousin was getting married and only invited him and didn't give him a plus one, even though I've known them for quite a while and see them at all the family functions. I was a little upset but I guess it was an issue with the venue fitting everyone. Oh well... We did invite them both (his cousin and her husband) to our wedding. I don't want any drama with only inviting one of them , not worth it.

Are you sure it's not a mistake? Maybe they made the invitations before you were engaged, since it's only been 2 months. Or the invitations could have been addressed from a very preliminary guest list that was made months and months ago. Mistakes happen all the time, so your fiance needs to ask! If they didn't include you on purpose, then that's another story and you'd have every right to feel upset

1. Yes, you are right to feel upset and insulted. That is extraordinarily rude.

2. You still have to invite them to your wedding if your FH wants them there. You need to be the bigger person in this case. I know that sucks, but being petty won't help anything.

Its definitely fair to feel upset, but I would just have your fiancé check in with them. Maybe they have some sort of reasoning behind it or maybe it was just a misunderstanding?

You're right to be upset about this, it's extremely rude of them. Two wrongs don't make a right, however, so while it's tempting to do the same thing to them, don't stoop to their level. Invite them both to your wedding and show them what it means to be a good host.

I don't think your fiancé should attend a wedding from which you are so pointedly excluded. However, he might check it out with his friend to make sure the dishonoring of his engagement was intended.

And, no--I wouldn't want people who dishonored my relationship at my wedding.

I think he should check with his friend. As for 1), I wouldn't have thought anything of it if my fiance got invited to a wedding that was just his friend's friends, and I was not invited, but that was just me (I didn't even know it was considered insulting before these forums). Maybe they need to condense the guest list to just close friends, or they have to consider space and logistics, so that is why. It is not my place to question why or why not they did not invite certain people. (but like I said, that's me, and apparently it's considered super rude to a majority). 2) I agree with posters saying two wrongs don't make a right, so try not to be petty about it. Fiance needs to ask though, that can help clear things up a bit! Good luck!

1. You're totally in the right to feel what you're feeling. We gave everyone a plus one for this reason.

2. Yes, that would be petty. I would invite the couple like normal. As much as everyone would like all guests to have plus ones, sometimes it's just not in the budget to do so. I would not take it personally.

Have you ever met them? Think about it if it were flipped - would you want a friend asking to bring a plus one that was not invited? No, you'd probably be pretty annoyed about it. If none of his other friends got plus ones, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. If you actually know them and are friends with them, that's different. I think it depends on your relationship with the couple and yes, it would definitely be petty not to invite them to your wedding if FH wants them there.

1) Yes you have the right to feel insulted. If they are such close friends, they HAVE to have known that he is engaged. I think it's rudeness on their part. It could have been that they planned all of this out before you had gotten engaged but they still should have caught this before sending the invites out.

2) I don't think it's petty for you to not want the wife there at the wedding. If anyone asks or your fiance disagrees I'd let him know that you weren't invited to their wedding so it is what it is. Although on the other hand, I wouldn't want to go against my Fiance's wishes on what he would want. It's really up to you on how you handle this but I completely understand why you wouldn't want her there after all of this.

I'm sorry this happened to you and I think it was rude of them to not invite you. Even if they did this because they didn't know of proper etiquette, or forgot, or were on a budget, any other reason, I don't think I'd even feel happy about going to a wedding they didn't originally want me at anyway. I know this may not be the best thing to do but I probably wouldn't just let it slide but that's just me.

Yes, you have every right to be insulted. As far as inviting them to your wedding, that is ultimately your FH decision since they are his friends.