Help! Our best man won’t come to the wedding because of his wife.

That is very immature! Just bc you were in her wedding doesn’t mean you have to return the favor that is on a whole knew pettiness.. sounds like you already tried a resolution can’t cry over spoiled milk move on

View Quoted Comment Wait did I read that right.. what’s a “money suit”?

I meant-“ monkey suit “

She sounds like she's whiney and immature. I don't think you should do anything extra for her. If she wants to act like this that is entirely her choice, but you shouldn't feel obligated to go out of your way. This is your day, not her's. She decided to have you in her wedding that doesn't mean you have to do the same.

On the side of the groosmen not going to Vegas. He will need to decide if he wants a really pissed off wife, or enjoy a party with the wedding party. I have a feeling he will go with NOT wanting a pissed off wife, which is completely okay and respected. Though I think if anyone agrees to anything this woman wants she sounds like the kind of woman that will keep making demands and altermatims. This isn't yours not your FH problem. It's his and his wife's. They need to figure things out for themselves.

Good luck! Don't let her crankiness get in your way of happiness.

Woah. That's crazy. Since she went through the wedding process already she should know how these things go. If you don't know her that well than it doesn't make a lot of sense to have her anyways. Especially if you are closer to your current bridesmaids

You shouldn't be bullied into having to have someone in your wedding just because you were in theirs. I can understand though why she may be a bit hurt by it, but it does seem she is taking things to far. Your FH's brother will need to decide what he wants to do. It's sad she would come between brothers.

View Quoted Comment To address somethings that I left out earlier.. yes I wanted her separate from our big Vegas trip because she is not accountable for herself. My future brother in law was planning on spending his portion of the trip for her. That way she can do this trip instead of himself and she isn’t even in the party. So yes in this part I was being petty and saying that it’s just the party going so his decision could be easier for my future brother in law.
Another thing I should clarify is that I said in my post (or at least meant to say) is that we are THINKING of not inviting them. Nothing as far as invites have been finalized, but from hearing how her parents and siblings were going to go on vacation during our wedding really hurt us. That made us feel like not inviting them at all. Not trying to be petty, but would you want someone coming to your wedding that says something like that about you and your fiancé? I do agree on being the bigger person and still inviting them regardless. It’s better to be the bigger person and not act childish about this stuff.
I hope this brings some clarity to the original post

View Quoted Comment Yes I have talked to both of them one on one and it seemed like we came to a resolution, but after that weekend things changed. She talked to her parents and she is right back to where she was. We talked about not being in the party because she felt like she deserved it over certain people.. which was a little odd but we talked it out. Then her other concern was the Vegas trip and not going. I have replied to someone on here as to why she couldn’t go, but I’ll let you know. For that trip both of them didn’t have the means to both go. That is why we limited it to just the parties. Making their decision easier. Which was clarified and understood, but I made the effort to do another night out at home so she could feel included.

View Quoted Comment I was engaged to my fiancé when she asked me to be in her wedding. So I thought that was the reason why she asked me. What I have come to realize is that she thinks of us as friends, but I am not as close to her as I am with my other friends in my party. These friends of mine I hang out with one one and have known prior to meeting my fiancé.