Help! Totally lost on colors/ theme!

First off, everything you're sharing here is stunning! So indecisive as you may be, you're off to a really great start

When I think "classic and elegant," I tend to think black, white, navy, gold, silvers...that sort of thing. It's super neutral so it's not like picking...orange and forest green or something. LOL.

If you want some color, red never goes out of style - so a simple & elegant "black & white" with a metallic (gold, sliver, etc.) and pops of red is a super elegant and timeless look. Plus it's always easy to find those colors!

Keep it simple and classic! That venue is beautiful and so there is no reason to over complicate it with crazy colors.

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Black and white can totally look summery! Fresh greenery, roses (in any color, really) and plenty of creams/whites, metallics and bright lighting can make it really work. I've seen some STUNNING b&w summer celebrations!

My FH and I always talked about having a colorless wedding. So basically, our "colors" are gold, ivory, and forest green. The bridesmaids dresses are gold, groomsmen are in black & white suits, and our flowers are all ivory with greenery. All decor is gold/ivory - black tablecloths. I [hope] it will be timeless.

If black seems to "funeral" maybe do a charcoal or various shades of gray? Or instead of just black dresses, something with a little bit "Extra" like sequins or metallics? (Not, like...a sequin or silver satin dress, but accents, belts, etc.) I think if you put your thought into it and use pinterest as your guide (LOL) it's totally possible and realistic to make Black & White celebrations look INCREDIBLE!

Wow, that dress is so dramatic and gorgeous!!!! As is the venue. For me, when I think of a black tie wedding, I think black, white, red, and silver or gold. I don't think using black and white will make your wedding look like a funeral! I think that's such a classic and elegant choice, especially if you add pops of a deep color like purple, red, maroon or blue and silver accents.

Totally agree with Melissa and Rose - you don't need a theme or colors or anything. Just do what you want.

We personally said the same - we don't want to look back in ten years and think, ugh, what a fad. I mean, truth be told I'm sure we'll laugh at something, but we just kept everything pretty "clean" and elegant. Here's my BAM if if helps: https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/crystals-and-wood-and-marble-oh-my-bam-pic-heavy/712521db40ab21f9.html

We just did white flowers, with some natural green leaves and etc. His GMs wore a black tux with navy tie, my girls wore navy blue dresses.

I WISH I had said "black tie" on our invitations. We had the level of service but someone talked us out of it, and most women came in cocktail dresses and most men just in suits. Which I guess is fine, but we spent a lot and it was a black tie affair. Oh well.

And don't worry about gold versus silver, most won't notice. our venue had gold chandeliers but most everything we did was silver.

That said, no, black dresses and black tuxes aren't too much. It will look beautiful and elegant. here's some ideas:

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/472526185901982147/

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/12877548920716331/

My bridesmaids wore dresses from David's Bridal in the color "Biscotti"! I was also going for a classic, elegant theme!