Help! Wedding supposed to be in 3 days! May not happen!

Oh I am so sorry. This is so sticky and I know it sucks days before your wedding.

If I were you, I would listen to your SO. It sounds like the wedding may should be on the back burner for now, although that is a tough pill to swallow - I think you and your fiancé's priority should be fixing whatever is broken in your relationship. The wedding can wait. Make yours and her happiness priority first, and everything else will fall into place. You both deserve to go into a marriage without having to convince the other that it's the right thing to do.

So sorry gal. Good luck - it will all work out in the end.

I also will add, the idea of planning a wedding and having to call it off can be excruciating and, in a way, humiliating. You are so valid in feeling the way you do about having to call it off. I know it's the last thing you want to have to explain to people, and that in itself can be a major factor of wanting to push the idea of going through with the wedding. But I would take a step back and get to the bottom of the issues in the relationship, or why it is that your fiancé all of a sudden isn't interested in the marriage. I wish I had better advice!

What would I do? Call it off.

You should never try to "convince" someone it's a good idea to get married.

Calling off the wedding is daunting. Calling everyone to tell them that it isn't happening will probably be a little embarrassing. But it would be far more embarrassing to have everyone present and... she just doesn't show up. Which she still could do.

You don't get married then fix the relationship with counseling. You fix the relationship then get married.

From the outside, it seems you two have very different ideas about what "marriage" means. To her, it is a life-changing event deeply entwined with the relationship - that is, the relationship should be good before you get married. To you, it seems like it's just a piece of paper you sign and the relationship exists outside of it - sign the paper now regardless of the state of the relationship and fix it later. I'm not saying one is right or wrong, but you should both definitely be on the same page about what getting married is and what marriage means for your relationship.

I'm on your FW's side on this one. Get married someday, but not Saturday. Go to counseling. You both want to make it work, but you need to get on the same page first.