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Carrie
Dedicated October 2022

Help!!!!!

Carrie, on October 3, 2019 at 2:20 PM

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We are on a TIGHT budget, we were looking into a VFW hall and having catering. Well I was looking at the place we would be getting the catering from and they offer events, so I was crunching numbers and if we have it at the place that we wanted to have do the catering we would save some money....

We are on a TIGHT budget, we were looking into a VFW hall and having catering. Well I was looking at the place we would be getting the catering from and they offer events, so I was crunching numbers and if we have it at the place that we wanted to have do the catering we would save some money. NOW..., my aunt/godmother is trying to put her 2 cents in and tell me to do a country club (looked at the prices and its DEF out of budget) she is being PUSHY with it and I keep telling her its NOT AFFORDABLE. Im def 2nd guessing doing the VFW hall, NO deposits have been made, but Im just not sure what to do!! My FH and I are getting together every Fri to discuss things I am planning on bringing ALL this up when we talk tomorrow but I really not sure.

I dont have family that can really help with this, my mom passed away when I was 16, my grandmother passed 2 yrs ago and my grandfater passed 15 yrs ago. I have 1 aunt (horriable healt, doesnt work) and 1 uncle (war vet, health not great) left, my uncle and his wife ARE going to pay for my dress (PHEW, was worried how I was gonna afford that). My FH has a BIG family but he is a VERY independent person he doesnt ask for help if its not life or death, even then its still VERY hard for him to ask for family help. We both know that his family will help where we need it, if needed. This venue thing is really starting to stress me out and just want to break down and cry. ANY and ALL advice is welcome. THANK YOU!!


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  • Carrie
    Dedicated October 2022
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    Since I am making my center pieces I wont need flowers. I did my calculations from my florist and the total is $555. It might even be less when I go see her next week I want small bouquets for my bridal party and I dont want something to big myself. I also just sent for more info for the link you sent. I looked at this but the kitchen sort of threw me off
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  • Elizabeth
    Devoted October 2020
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    As a veteran myself most Cities even the small ones have Veterans Memorial Halls. Have you thought about NCO Club. If you have base access.
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  • Dierdra
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    My advice is similar. This is you and your FH wedding day. Unless the people that are upsetting you are willing to front the money then they really shouldn't have a say (personal opinion). Now if you're wanting something different then that's another story- off season drops cost. Venues a little outside of cities can drop the value. Outdoor ceremonies drop cost. But again dont let negativity get you down. This is your day with your soon to be husband. Band together and do what makes you two happy!
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  • MIWM
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    I've been to been to a few VFW weddings and they all were very beautiful and the food was amazing! And it's affordable!!

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  • Reena
    Expert February 2021
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    This. My fiancé and I are paying for the wedding. We tell family details after decisions have been made and contracts have been signed. And when people express their opinions I take it with a grain of salt.
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  • Carrie
    Dedicated October 2022
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    We are no longer going with the VFW, with having to bring in our own food (they dont provide it) and rental and open bar option it was going to be more then what we ending up doing. We found a public golf club where the price of food can be provided at a GREAT price. We were able to add in an open bar and we are going to have a GREAT day. I cant wait!!!

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  • Carrie
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    Thank you. Everything is all better now

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  • MIWM
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    That's awesome! So glad you found a place. Congrats!!!

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  • Watts
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    Awesome! Congratulations
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