Honest opinions about weekday wedding…

It isn't unreasonable at all but you will need to reconcile with the fact that you will likely receive many more declines than if you held it on the weekend

There's nothing unreasonable with having a wedding on a weekday. Like Bridget said, there will be the possibility of more declines. And depending on location for everyone, for those local, they may leave earlier in the night (if it's a night time wedding) due to work, kids, school, etc. So just keep that in mind.

You would have to be an immediate family member or one of my few best friends for me to go to a non local Tuesday wedding. It's not that I wouldn't be happy for you or that I didn't want to go, it's just I would potentially have to use up to 3 days of my very limited PTO.

It’s definitely not unreasonable, but as Bridget mentioned you may have a higher decline rate. I think it depends a lot on your crowd though. We are also having our wedding on a date that is very special to us. Before Covid forced us to reschedule, it was going to be on a Wednesday. Now that we had to push it out 2 years, it is going to fall on a Friday. But, everyone was just as stoked and willing to attend on a Wednesday as they were on a Friday!

Unrealistic no, but inconvenient for guests yes. Even if they live in town they will likely have to take a half day at work so they can get ready for the wedding and arrive to the ceremony on time. So I would expect more people to decline than normal.

Our wedding is on a monday! I think it really depends on your crowd and the situation. We're having a destination wedding that is combined with a large family vacation, so for us the day itself didn't really matter as our party is small to begin with!

Yes. Guests will have to leave work early to make it there and take the next day off as they will be tired. Expect a very low acceptance rate.

I think it depends on if anyone has to travel. If it was local and started at say 6pm, then no i don't think it's unreasonable. But if it's earlier or anyone has to travel then i would think reeeeally hard about whether the date or the people you want to celebrate with are more important.

I think it depends. My fiancés cousin is getting married next Thursday. I don’t believe she had a very high decline rate

I mean you can. There's nothing stopping you. I'd tailor the wedding around the guests that will be coming straight from work and leaving early for work the next day. I'd be OK to stop by a casual dinner/drinks to celebrate, but a whole formal event would be tricky.

Only unreasonable if you're expecting guests to travel from out of town. If all of your guests are local, not unreasonable, but I'd expect a higher decline rate due to the inconvenience

Agree with other PPs. You will likely have a higher decline rate. While I understand a date can hold special significance, I’d encourage to think of it this way: that date is going to come around every year for you to experience again, but your wedding only happens once, so if loved ones that you really hoped would be there aren’t there, you’ve lost out on getting to have their presence with you on that special day.


We did not hold ours on a day that already held significance for us, but I view it as we got to create another significant day for us to cherish 😊 Now we have more of those days each year: date we met, date we started dating, date we got engaged, and date we got married!

A Tuesday is definitely fine to have your wedding on. Especially for 60-70 guest. Don’t worry about what they will say, if they want to be there for you all they will be. I was in a wedding that took place on a Monday, it’s perfectly fine. Especially if that’s the day you both want.

We’re doing a Tuesday wedding. It’s a destination wedding and a Tuesday following a holiday weekend (Labor Day), so some of our guests are going to do a mini vacation and hang out for a few days before the wedding. I wouldn’t sweat it as long as the VIPs (close family and wedding party) can make it. Sure, some people who otherwise might have come might RSVP no, but even on weekends you probably won’t get everyone. It’s too soon for us to do invitations and RSVPs yet, but we’ve been in touch with everyone we’re inviting, and we’ve received no pushback whatsoever about this falling on a weekday. We just have a couple families who are going to leave their kids at home so they don’t miss school. I would give people more notice, though, so they can plan ahead and save up PTO if that’s what they’re wanting to do.

I would run the idea by your VIPs first to make sure they'll be able to swing it. We have a lot of people traveling in for our wedding, but if we had picked a day in the middle of the week, it probably would have been difficult for even those who are local to attend.

It's certainly not impossible, but you'll definitely get some pushback. You'd pretty much have to plan for it to start later in the evening, and a lot of people will have to take off from work, fight rush hour traffic, and either take time off the next day or go to work after spending the night celebrating (which could also lead to people leaving the party early).

If the date is the most important thing to both of you, then that's your choice, but if having more people there, a longer celebration, or everyone being able to have a full day to enjoy the event, it may be worth reconsidering.

Ultimately, you can and no one should be hostile about it. But as others have said, expect a higher decline rate. Out of town relatives it's asking a lot. Even in town is rough. I know there have been times in my life I wouldn't have been able to afford to call off work to go to a wedding.


Be prepared to justify the date to others, and also be sure the date is worth a) not having certain people, b) having to defend the decision, and c) being aware of the sacrifice some will make to be there for you two.
Regarding c; I'm not saying you're going to make someone sacrifice work, or not being able to stay long. But you should be aware that picking your date of significance will have a cost to your guests. Just be sure the date is worth it.
Also, maybe you could do the rehearsal dinner on the Tuesday instead to include that date?Either way, congratulations!

How badly do you want people to attend? Is there anyone you absolutely couldn't imagine the day without (close family, lifelong BFFs, etc.)? If so, I would contact them and say "Hey, we're thinking of having our wedding on X date, but it's a Tuesday. Would you still be able to attend?"