Honey fund.

I didn't put it on an invite. i had wedding website and put it there.

View Quoted Comment We are not doing the website.

Gifts (especially money) should never be mentioned on invitations. Skip the registry and people will default to cash or check gifts.

Just don’t register - you cannot outwardly asks for gifts. If someone wants to gift you cash, they will.

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If people know there isn’t a registry they will give cash or a check most of the time! Gifts or registry usually isn’t mentioned on the wedding invite. I mostly only see physical gifts given at the shower.

Never put anything about gifts (esp. cash) on your invitation; it gives the impression that strings are attached to their attendance. Just don't register for anything - people will gift cash instead. Make sure to have a well-marked box for cards at your reception.

If there is no registry people will typically default to cash or check. Then there will always be some people that will get you physical gifts whether you want them or not (these are the same people that you can point blank say "I don't like gifts" to and will give you something anyway, so no amount of convincing otherwise will help).

We eloped (postponed our wedding due to Covid-19) and had no registry and still got some gifts we didn't need as well as cash/checks, particularly from family members and friends of my mom who are people that weren't even on our guest list but felt happy for us and wanted to gift us something.

I am wondering the same thing....I would suggest typing up on Word or other document and copying and pasting a bunch of times (so page is full) then print out as many as you need, and cut them into strips (1 for each invite) saying something like "We already have everything we need for our home, but if you would still like to get us a gift we would really appreciate any amount towards a trip to (you fill in blank) " ......when my sister got married 4 years ago, they had a cute glass jar on the gift table with a note that explained it was for a honeymoon fund. you could do something like that... hopefully this is more like what you were asking.

View Quoted Comment Yes thank you! You see the poems and what not people write for this kinda stuff but I didn’t know how they used it or sent it out thank you

Do not say anything on the invite. Don't register and then spread it by word of mouth to your parents whom guests traditionally ask to find out where you are registered. Never assume that guests will default to cash gifts, as it isn't standard in many circles. Many people will buy you gifts regardless and those need to be acknowledged graciously with a prompt thank you note.

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome! Glad i could help!

You could totally put something cute on the details card and let people know registries aren't your style they can give you whatever they see fit.

You could also set up Honeyfund or Zola and when guests ask if you’re registered, you can tell them me of those.

If you want to use Honeyfund, then you'll probably need to have a wedding website with a link to your Honeyfund so that guests can give you money for your honeymoon. I wouldn't put anything about your Honeyfund registry on a details card--it's much more tactful on a wedding website. I would highly recommend creating a free wedding website. You can also do the Knot newlywed fund (which is essentially just money in lieu of gifts).

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Just so you know, it's considered bad etiquette (rude) to put things like that with your invitations. That's why people are suggesting a wedding website. Before websites it was only proper etiquette to pass along registry info by word of mouth through the wedding party. Honey Funds can be a polarizing topic anyways because some people consider them inappropriate at all. If you include one in your invitations you risk offending people.

Don't mention anything on the invites about gifts. If you just want money, then just don't register and people will default to cash. If you want an online fund, then make a small registry with a fund on it.