Honey moon cash jar at reception?

This is the worst. I don't even like honeyfunds or things like that, but this just... ugh.

My FH casually mentioned when we were at the beginning of planning that his cousin had a Honeymoon jar at her wedding. I think the look I gave him told him everything he needed to know about that idea.

If you want a honeymoon, you pay for it. Like an adult.

I definitely don't like this, but we are doing a honeymoon registry, which I know is still a contentious topic for some people. I've had several family members do a honeymoon registry in the past though, and never heard any complaints from my large family about it being rude. I bought them "gifts" for their honeymoon through the registry. That way people don't just feel like they're giving you cash and can instead give you a nice dinner on your honeymoon, or ziplining, or horseback rides, or whatever. I use Wanderable.

Don't listen to @Melissa or @spara either, honeyfunds are just as bad. They are virtual tip jars.

How big of a % do the honey fund sites take to handle your money? Why bother? If you don't register for much, most people will just give you money.

Yeah...this is just not cool. Or ok in any way. I'm sure you're getting the message but hey it's better to solicit opinions here than have the raised eyebrows from your guests at the reception. Love HiH's idea!

Wow, well thanks for trying to invalidate my opinion, Emmy. I was just telling her what I'm doing.

Alexia, I think the honeymoon registry thing may be regional. Some people see it as terrible, obviously, while others have absolutely no problem with it. I'd much rather pay for someone's dinner than give them a toaster.

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It's fine if you think that. There's no reason to come on here and tell someone not to listen to another person when the OP has asked for opinions. I said in my original post it was a contentious topic.

It is my opinion to not listen to you or the other person who said it is a good idea. Get over yourself, you we're targeted or the only one mentioned.

I don't like the idea of tip jars, honeymoon jars, or honeymoon/cash registry funds.

Well then... bless your heart.

Alexia, do what makes you happy with your wedding and honeymoon. After all, it is YOURS!

Do what you want but be aware some people might be offended. Just because people don't hear the complaints doesn't mean that people agree with something.

Haha..popcorn time, but I mustn't spoil my lunch.

All my nopes.

I really like @HiH's idea--I also heard about a couple who put all their change in a bucket whenever they emptied their pockets and then when it was full cashed it in for a weekend trip, nice dinner out, etc.

If you want money for your honeymoon, I would definitely just take your cards with you and use that money.

Guess what y'all, conversation over. I agreed with everyone from the beginning, no sense in getting catty with one another. To those with sweet words, thank you, to those full of no, you've been understood. Can we call it now?

And thank you @HiH for something constructive.

I dont see anything wrong with it, and I considered doing it at my own wedding. What's the difference between this and the dollar dance? You are still asking for money from your guest.

^^ There isn't a difference. They're both tacky and rude.

Hahahaha @Shanna ------ no difference whatsoever! Asking guests for money is ... well.... gross.