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Savvy August 2018

Honeyfund poem

Amber, on April 27, 2018 at 2:49 PM Posted in Registry 0 62
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First time poster long time reader. I have seen so many posts about honeymoon funds whether to do them or not (mostly not) and I see so many people get discouraged of doing them so I thought I would make a post saying that it is your choice and your wedding and you do you boo everyone is just giving their opinions and advice but please don't let anyone discourage you. I wanted to put a more positive light on it. Here is my poem that I am putting into my invitations Smiley smile

Honeyfund poem 1

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Latest activity by Erin, on May 14, 2022 at 5:35 PM
  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
    Sarah ·
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    If you have to say “don’t be offended” in the poem, you already know you’re offending people so why do it? I didn’t register, I didn’t have a tacky poem, and 120 out of our 128 guests still gave us money.

    TBH, as a guest, when I see poems like this, I want to decline the invite or just give a card.
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  • Kristin
    Super May 2018
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    *waits for responses to start coming in*

    It is tacky to include any mention of gifts, be it a registry or anything else with the invitations. People know cash is a good gift and you don't need to ask for it.
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  • Mrs. Rose To Be
    Expert June 2019
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    This is SO cute. I love it. Your positive outlook on the honeymoon fund is so needed! The reality of the situation is that not everyone’s situations are the same and we should all respect that! My FH and I have lived together for over four years. A registry is literally pointless to us.
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  • Nemo
    Master August 2018
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    Agree with the previous poster. Money funds make me not want to give the person money. And the poems aren't cute, they make me feel uncomfortable because people are trying to make an unacceptable thing acceptable by making it rhyme.

    Also, you are not supposed to list anything about gifts on your invitation.

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  • A
    Savvy August 2018
    Amber ·
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    I knew I was going to get crap for this but I dont really care I just wanted to let others who want to do anything similar know that its okay its not the end of the world Smiley smile judge away!! Smiley smile
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  • Teresa
    Super September 2018
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    Nothing to do with the money or honeyfund.

    I am not really the best at proper grammar but the last sentence should it be "can't" not cant?

    Didn't want you to print in your invitation with an oversight.
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  • A
    Savvy August 2018
    Amber ·
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    Thank you! It was just a mock up for now I just wanted to see how things looked first and then the detailed corrections will begin Smiley smile
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  • C
    Master July 2018
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    Nope. Nope. Nope.
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  • Happy Hedgie
    VIP September 2018
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    Agreed! I always give people cash as a wedding present without a cutesy poem telling me to. If I ever saw something like this I'd either give an empty card (no gift) or the weirdest off-registry gift I could find.

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  • A
    Savvy August 2018
    Amber ·
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    Thank you!! Bottom line is it's up to the people getting married and what they want to do. It is their wedding after all not everyone else's. Everyone just needs to ease up a little and be a little nicer. This world is already harsh and I could go on and on but I'll stop there Smiley smile
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
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    Whatever your views on honeymoon funds, it is always considered poor etiquette to put anything related to gifts, registries or cash with your wedding invitations.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
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    I don’t have an opinion or whether or not you do a honeyfund but I would find it tacky if someone even listed where they were registered in their wedding invitation. Registry and gift info has no place in wedding invites.
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  • BB-H
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    I would like to second this.

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  • MrsMcK
    VIP September 2017
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    Amber. It’s not ok.
    Not the end of the world, but probably the end of some friendships. I would certainly re-evaluate my relationship with someone if they did this. After I bought them a toaster.
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  • K
    Expert May 2018
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    I've never been to a wedding where someone had honey-fund nor do I know much about them, but I personally wouldn't put anything related to gifts on the invitations. I would just not register since most people like to gift cash anyway.

    Also just my personal opinion, but the cutesy poems related to cash gifts and other aspects of weddings just make me uncomfortable. they make me feel as though i'm being treated like a child.

    I know sometimes the comments on here come across as harsh, but I've gotten a lot of really good advice on here. There was a lot to learn when I first started wedding planning and I'm happy to have read through a lot of these "do's and don't" threads.

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  • A
    Savvy August 2018
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    It is actually okay. You have the choice of ignoring it and not letting it get to you and not getting them money or a gift or anything and that would be okay! However anyone wants to do their wedding is A-okay Smiley smile
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  • Anne
    Master April 2017
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    I mean nobody says you CAN'T do a honeyfund, as obviously they are out there as a choice. It's just a super tacky choice that is likely to offend people. If you don't mind doing something tacky and uncouth then go for it.

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  • SusieQue
    Dedicated July 2018
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    I think it’s cute and I’m doing it as well... it’s not like you have a gun to someone’s head saying give me money or else lol sheesh ppl kill me on these forums everything they don’t agree with is “tacky” no judgement here 💅🏾 Do what makes you happy!
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  • SusieQue
    Dedicated July 2018
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    I’d probably put it on my wedding website instead of the invitations though... but do what makes you happy it’s your day.
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  • A
    Savvy August 2018
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    Thank you!! Agreed Smiley smile
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