Honeyfund poem

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! Once again agree whole heartedly!! These positive comments are wonderful I'm glad I'm not alone 😊

View Quoted Comment Weddings are weddings for the couple and and wedding "etiquette" is by popular opinions not everyone's sweetie 😘

View Quoted Comment Exactly my point! Agree to that

View Quoted Comment Bless your heart.
Please tell us you are a trolling.

I can't believe the amount of people on this thread saying they'd decline over this, or give a bad gift or no gift. Unreal. That's super selfish and, dare I say, rude.

But I wouldn't put it in your invitations. I do agree that registry info, cash or otherwise, should be given in a shower invite or put on your website.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for your positive input!! I agree with you! That is rude and selfish to decline a wedding or give a bad gift just because of that. They can just simply ignore that little peice of information if they feel so strongly. Especially if it is someone they truly care about.

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This sums it up.

I hope you didn't send the invitations yet because you will still have time to take them out.

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They shouldn't be having a shower if they want cash: showers are for physical gifts, not money

Asking for gifts and cash is plain rude, rhyming it just makes it embarrassingly rude. And you know this, or you wouldn't have added the "cute" line about being offended. The whole thing is in such poor taste.

View Quoted Comment I agree. I specifically mentioned cash because that is what the poster is asking for. No gifts, no shower.

I think the tearing down of OP in this thread is really unnecessary. What happened to “kindness matters”? You can be honest with her without being harsh. I saw a few people who were and kudos to you guys!

I don’t really find honeyfunds rude or tacky really. But, I would probably not include this poem on the invitation. Maybe put it on your wedding website? Oh, and I would nix the “please don’t be offended part”. If people are like me, I would wonder what I would have to be offended about and start googling, then you would have a mess. 😅 Cut out those two lines or revise them and I think you’ll be fine. I’m hoping for cash at my wedding, too. And yes if we get cash it will be going toward our honeymoon.

Asking for gifts is always rude, not just at weddings. The reality is the "rules" of throwing a wedding aren't any different than any other event you might have.

View Quoted Comment She came on an etiquette forum, to brag that she’s doing something rude and to tell others that it’s ok to go against etiquette. Of course people are going to tell her she’s wrong and disapprove of her post. She’s kind of purposely stirring the pot.

View Quoted Comment I didn’t realize the entire WW forum was an etiquette forum. This is posted in Registry.

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But there's still an amount of etiquette involved in communication with the registry. I think that's the intent here.

I can't really add a new opinion or tidbit of wisdom here, but I just want to second the idea of at the very least, simply including this information on the wedding website. Clearly no one's opinion of the honey fund idea matters to OP, otherwise she wouldn't have posted what she did. But other posters saying that it's poor form to put registry/fund information directly on the invitation are absolutely right. The purpose of the invitation is to invite the person to your wedding, not to ask for gifts.

View Quoted Comment The ww forum’s original intent is for etiquette, yes.

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You've been getting a lot of positive comments, just not in agreement with your choice. It seems like negative may equate with disagreement in your eyes.

You've even had a fair number of people not even comment on asking for cash, so much as including the request in your invites. You are, as everyone else is, welcome to do your wedding as you wish, but there are people here who are telling you that this may be received poorly. I would always want someone to tell me if I was doing something that might offend someone.

View Quoted Comment Good to know. I honestly don’t know much about weddings & etiquette. Trying to learn!

View Quoted Comment I love your posts & think it's cute. I think every situation is different so what some think is bad etiquette may not be the opinion of another. I like the poem & wouldn't be offended to get 1 in an invitation

View Quoted Comment 👏👏 thank you! I was thinking the same