Honeyfund

If you do a search, you will find many discussions on this topic. The responses are largely negative, with the main problems being 1.) the sites take a portion of the money and 2.) it's rude to ask guests to give you money.

View Quoted Comment Okay thanks For your input !! I’ll check it out

You’re not going to get too many responses in favor of a honeyfund (or any cash registry) on here from others bc of etiquette. I don’t have one personally, but they do take 2.5-3% of the money given to you. It’s not much on small amounts but if someone gives a big donation it adds up. We’re registering for a few items but also stating that well wishes, cards & donations are also graciously accepted. I’m just expecting most ppl to bring cards/money anyway.

If you still decide to do it anyhow, Zola has an all-in-one type of registry where you can register for gifts & add additional “cash gifts” as well such as honeymoon, housefund, activities etc..they charge 2.5% for cash registry.

We found a box at hobby lobby that says honeymoon fund. We politely let our guests know that since we moved and had a baby we have more then what we have space for so we have no registry and have a honeymoon fund

I've Never heard of this. Thanks for sharing!

View Quoted Comment Oh okay nice!! Congratulations on your baby!!

View Quoted Comment Some of my clients told me about just curious if ppl liked the idea or not. Seems to have mixed emotions!!

View Quoted Comment Oh okay perfect I’ll check it out. Thank for the heads up etiquette first of course!! ☺️

I used a resgistry for household items and no one has purchased anything ive heard through the grapevine everyone is giving money to us. Theres no need to register for a honeyfund. Most people tend to give money these days

I recently had a coworker who set one up. She was complaining that it was a waste of time in that they only received a couple hundred from the site.

As my mom always said, "there's no polite way to ask for money." While I figure people will probably give us some cash/cards, I absolutely don't expect it. If they give us nothing (which is what I actually requested on our info card) I will be happy. If anyone opts to give us a little something, that's just a nice extra.

I'll be the dissenter...

I'm not the least bit offended by a honeymoon fund or a down payment for a house fund, etc. I've used the online payment options to gift someone cash many times. In fact, I was just invited to a coworker's September wedding and already did the wedding gift through their online honeymoon fund. I much prefer the convenience.

As to the etiquette argument, I think it's a dated argument. I pulled out my Emily Post etiquette book when I first saw all the negativity about them on this site and she has no objections. If it's good enough for Emily Post, it's good enough for me.

Oh and also, they give the gifter the option to pay the processing fee and I've also done that every single time I've done a gift through a honey fund. The knot is like 1.5% I think...I figure it's a lot less than the sales tax I'd pay for a gift and saves me the hassle of remembering to get cash for the card if I'm gifting cash that way.

As a matter of fact, I think honey funds are probably my gifting preference. No need for me to get cash, go to a store and buy something off a registry, or shop online and have it shipped.

View Quoted Comment Your mom was a wise woman!

I’m doing honeyfund and love it! My fiancé and I have been together for over 7 years and have more pots/pans/house decor than we can handle. They have very taseful poems and sayings to put on your invitations, and I made it very clear we were not expecting money, but if people wanted to gift we did prefer funds toward our honey moon. I think it’s ruder to ask for things you’ll never use than actually being honest about what you prefer, but that’s just me!

I just recently set up an account on Honeyfund — I did offline gifting only. Guests can pick what they want to contribute to, print out a “gift certificate”, then give you cash/check. People are going to give you money anyway... this way they know what it’s going towards. You can send a pic of the activity with your thank you

It’s a scam IMO. They charge you (or your guest) a fee to deposit money into your own account. They don’t book any excursion or activities for you. I’m sorry but IMO it’s a dumb move to use a website that does nothing but takes your money for the instant gratification of a direct deposit gift.

Just skip the registery. People have been putting cash or checks in cards as a wedding gift for decades, if you don’t register people will get the hint and you won’t loose out on any money.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, hopefully that box idea helped

Yes! Honeyfund worked great! Their fee is small and worth the convenience. The etiquette rule is: do not *give* any registry info in your invites, website, etc. Once guests ask if you are registered, you may tell them where you’re registered, Honeyfund is fine.

1/2 our guests brought gifts/cash, 1/2 used Honeyfund or bought registered gifts (Honeyfund links to regular registries like Target & Macy’s).

I am a huge advocate for honeyfund. I'm from California, and it seems acceptable here but I'm reading a lot of people find it rude on WeddingWire. Probably because they're more conservative. I don't think it's rude, if you're saying $x for a day cruise or $x for wine tasting. It's gifting an experience, not money

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It makes sense for them to take a cut... it IS a service fee. How else will they keep the site running? just like how whenever you pay in credit car dthere's a 3% fee. now, is that a scam?