Honeyfund

I went with Honeyfund. I'm getting married this Saturday. My invites were nicely worded that we did not want any gifts but if anyone wanted to contribute to our delayed honeymoon, that we had a Honeyfund account. I was abundantly clear that the gift was their presence and nothing was necessary.

My fiance and I both had our own homes the last few years and now we have combined our stuff... and we have WAY too much stuff. In fact, we have doubles of so many things. I absolutely do not want any gifts, I can't handle them!

I see this website mostly believes it to be rude, but posting a registry is just as "rude." Either way people are spending money on you. At least that's how I'm seeing it.

In the future if I'm invited to a wedding, I sure hope I'm given the option of an online, easy pay thing like Honeyfund. The processing fee is not that big of a deal. If you want to really be rude, just ask for straight donations, payable to your PayPal account lol.

I’m doing one. A lot of people think they’re rude but I don’t know why. Why is it “okay” to ask for a $300 blender but it’s not okay to ask for $50 towards a special moment on your honeymoon? Lol just my opinion

One of my girlfriends used one for her honeymoon to Paris and I personally loved the fact that I could buy excursions for them to do.

I have a registry and no one has bought anything off of it so yeah ...

Unless I have a great gift idea for a couple I love to give them money. I'm going to be doing the whole "we don't need anything but your presence" thing, but tell people that a gift to our travel fund would be very appreciated.

Depending on where you plan to go if you use a travel agent I would ask them, I know around me some travel agents will set one up for you that doesn't cost any extra so they don't take away from you at all.

Oh wow! This is so interesting. My friend is using Traveler's Joy. I know nothing about honeymoon funds. I'm not necessarily against it because I get it, but I would never do it.

I just got an invite to a girl's wedding I used to work with and she only registered at Honeyfund. Every amount was $50 or more, and yes they do have a donate your own amount button, but having that be the only option I think is extremely rude. I wasn't planning on attending anyway so I'll figure something out as far as giving her a little money. I barely know her.

Definitely research the honeymoon websites if that's what you want, but I've heard of people taking down their registries closer to the date, so it encourages people to give you cash and gift cards. Personally any cash you get from the wedding I would use toward a honeymoon.

We added it to our online registry & integrated it with Target's registry also, mainly because we're traveling from NM to VA for our wedding, and bringing or shipping gifts home will be a pain in the butt. We also nicely mentioned on our wedding website that gift cards or money will be "graciously accepted" however so far, not one person has donated through Honeyfund, but there have been several purchases on our registry. I predict most people will give us cash or checks. I don't think charging a fee is "scam" per se, but I would rather have the total amount from the giver especially if they gift a large amount. I am considering removing it just because of that...

None. Want cash, don't registrar. Asking for cash in anyway is considered rude in many circles.

I disagree with people about the whole etiquette thing about Honeyfund. If you are registered for actual gifts as well and set up a honeyfund for a honeymoon, down payment, etc. then you are fine. It's similar to putting a large item on your registry and allowing it to be a multi person gift. Same for Honeyfund. You are requesting a larger gift and allowing multiple people to contribute towards it.

And of course there will be a % taken, it's a service fee. It's just like sales tax or a credit card fee. It's just part of how things work.

Its better to not register at all and hope for cash.

I wouldn't be offended by it, but I don't see a point in it. Most people will give you cash anyway, just have a small registry and people will get the idea. My grandma knows we'd prefer to be gifted money (especially for the honeymoon) so she's mentioning it to some relatives that she's close with (like not just calling them and telling them to give us money lol, but some relatives have already called her and asked what to get us, and she's told them that we're saving up for our honeymoon so they can do what they want with that info). I wouldn't feel comfortable doing more than that.

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Putting a registry of any kind on a wedding invitation is a breach of etiquette. Registries should only be mentioned on a shower invitation that is being thrown by someone else in your honor.

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Hey Krista,

What was the poem that you put on your invite? I am thinking of this idea as well, as my fiance and I just moved into our new home and have many household things already.

Thanks so much!

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Thank you for your positive feedback. Its VERY helpful.

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I 100% agree with all youve said. I dont think it's tacky or poor etiquette to have a honeyfund. It's not like you're not holding your hand out begging for cash if you have one LOL it's really a convenient way to receive cash gifts if you already have a house full of 'traditional' wedding registry stuff. I mean, you're forking over thousands of dollars to have a wedding, and hundreds per guest when all is said and done, what's tacky about giving them an easy way to gift? I really dont get it. But, I had this discussion with an older coworker of mine in her 70s. She said she went to a wedding where they clearly stated on the invite, they dont want items, they want cash towards their honeymoon. She found that tacky and said she wouldve given them cash, had they not asked, but since they asked, she got them the cheapest ugliest toaster she could find. EEK. My point being, I think maybe it's a generational thing and a dated 'rule' as far as etiquette goes. I honestly dont see why she was so upset and spiteful to not give them the $20 they wanted LOL .. i mean, maybe they couldve worded it better but what's wrong with letting guests know you want an awesome honeymoon instead of crap you already have?! I really dont get why it's looked at so negatively. And, I personally wouldnt want to have no mention of any registry because I'm being 'polite' and then have 150 guests call/text/email me asking if we have a registry, how annoying.

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Jackie, did you figure out something to put to let people know about your honeyfund?

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Wow, I could not agree with this more. Thank you!!