Honeyfund

Why would guests want to give you a gift on a website that charges a fee? Personally I don’t gift to honeyfund or any other site like that. I know how to put money in a card.

It may be that a lot of people are put off by honeyfund. There are a lot of posts you could search on the forums that explain why. People don’t like being specifically asked for money. And honeyfund takes a percentage of whatever they gift you so that’s another good reason to be put off by it.

I would never give to a honeyfund. They take fees and there is a delay from the wedding to when you receive the money. Plus I don't like to encourage people asking for money, since most people find it rude.

You'll probably receive cash/checks the day of.

Maybe people are just going to gift you money at your wedding rather than gifting money through a website that takes out a certain percentage... Please don't call people up asking about their gifts either.

Ide be dissapointed as well im still planning my wedding and as iam planning iam freaking out on how much it will all cost me and people who are invited should definitely give a gift, not show up and eat and drink its just not right

There are options on honey fund to avoid fees. I turned off the option with the fees so I don't have to worry about it. And no I would never call and harass them for something they have an option over, that's crazy. I was being silly about it. Honeyfund is just like any other registry it shows what you want and since my fiance and I have been living together for 6 years we don't need the usual registry items so we opted for travel funds which my family understands. I'll just see what happens the day off and we can go from there either way we Will all have a great time. Thank you all for your input

My experience is most people will bring a card with their "gift" (most often cash or a check, in the card) to the wedding or possibly send it in the mail before or after the ceremony. As the frequent posts about the pros & cons of "honeyfund" type registries often point out, many find "honeyfund" vendors, who take a cut of the intended gift, to be a less desirable way to give a gift than just writing a check. When I write a check I know you'll receive 100% of what I wanted to give you.

However, even if no one shows up with any type of gift (highly, highly unlikely), it would never be appropriate to later ask "where their gift is?" Based on your post, I'm certain you know that and would never do it, but just to clarify in case someone else reads that as a "good suggestion."

View Quoted Comment Of course I know that.. I'm not saying how dare they, I'm curious of what goes through there minds since this is somewhat new to most people... I would care if we didn't receive anything from anyone, we are happy to have our family celebrate with us...

Okay people really take thing very literal.... NVM lol

I really appreciate everyone's input! Thanks

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These websites are always going to take some kind of fee or percentage of the money you receive. How else would they operate if they didn't?

Just wait till your wedding day. I'm sure people will give you cash,

View Quoted Comment Why wouldn’t we take your words literally? We don’t know you, your tone, your sense of humor. Of course people will take what you say literally.

Again, you might be experiencing what often comes up on these posts, that whether people will tell the B&G directly or not, they find honeyfund-type registries less desirable and/or rude. (I'm not saying you're rude; I'm just pointing out that it may not be an appealing choice for your guests. Those with more "conventional" views on etiquette may be inclined to think it's rude because it is "asking for money," which, traditionally, has been viewed as inappropriate.) Good luck! Hopefully, you'll receive lots of heartfelt cards and good wishes on your wedding day.

View Quoted Comment Now this is honest and helpful, thank you!

I would never give to a honeyfund, however, I know someone that has used Zola to give a couple a "gift" and there was an option to delay the receipt until the day of the wedding. We know you were "joking" about calling people up and asking where your gift is, but the sentiment/attitude is not a joke and it's a little presumptuous.

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In addition to what I wrote previously, another reason I would not give a gift through a honeyfund site (or really any online vendor I don't feel super confident about) is because of concerns I have about identity theft. How do I know the vendor won't steal or sell my credit card information? For the same reason, I never give online to GoFundMe or other crowd funding sites. If I want to give a gift or make a donation, I always write a check directly to the person rather than give my credit card info to a website I don't really know anything about. Just another reason to consider.

Why wouldn’t you wait until your wedding?

I wouldn’t ever use a honeyfund, (as PP already said they charge fees). I wouldn’t worry about it, I’m sure a lot of people will bring cards when they arrive. Many people don’t feel comfortable giving out information online, especially gifting money to a website they might not be familiar with.

DO you have your trip booked and are relying on these "gifts" for it?

Uh it's probably because people think honeymoon funds are rude.