Honeyfund

Depending on your age, location, and demographics of your guests, honeyfund type registries could be off putting or awkward.

For example, a lot of my family is old school and like to give physical gifts because they're from the time/region where asking for cash is a faux pas. They would much rather spend $300 on china or crystal than put $300 cash in an envelope just on principle.

And I also have a lot of friends who are in their early 20s, just starting out, and can make their budget stretch much farther with a physical gift since they can leverage sales and coupons. The honeymoon fund is the same as giving cash, and they may feel uncomfortable with you knowing that they could only afford $25-50 on your wedding gift since you see the actual cash amount they'd put towards it.

On the other side of the coin, we have friends who for cultural reasons ONLY give cash. And they hand the cash in an envelope to you in person at the wedding as a sign of respect & well wishes/supporting the marriage. My FH & I fall into this third category (but until a few years ago I was in category #2 and you were getting a $100 gift I got on sale for $40 haha).

Finally, you'd be surprised how many people stop EN ROUTE to the wedding to buy a gift. So I'm sure you'll get cards/gifts at the wedding or mailed to you in the days following it

Also it's incorrect to say a Honeyfund is like 'any other registry' because the purpose of a traditional registry is to avoid getting duplicates of items. Everyone knows money is a good gift, and you can't possibly receive too much.

Wait until your wedding. Not many people will give wedding gifts before the wedding itself.

View Quoted Comment If you can’t afford it, you shouldn’t be having it. I can’t believe this. Gifts are completely not required.

Weddings are for people to come and celebrate with you. If you happened to plan something you couldn't afford, that's on you. No one owes you a gift.

We have many guests who we know can't afford to give us anything. We would much rather have them attend and celebrate with us than worry about scraping up a gift. It's not about the gifts.

Unfortunuately, people don’t think about this when using honeyfund. many people don’t give gifts in advance, so if you’re relying on it to pay for a pre- booked vacation that may not get paid for by your guests in the end.

First of all, gifts are not mandatory. They are nice but definitely not required. Second, a lot of people do not like and do not feel comfortable donating to a honeyfund.

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Thank you! "They can't just come and eat and drink for free and not give us anything in return!!!!!!" Literally you invited them, presumably because you love them and want to share an important event with them. They're eating and drinking for free because YOU INVITED THEM TO EAT AND DRINK FOR FREE AT A PARTY YOU'RE THROWING.

I think the PPs have really covered all the reasons why people may be put off by it. And also that you can probably expect some money gifts in cards the day of your wedding. But I would also like to point out that traditional wedding etiquette gives your guests up to a YEAR to give you their gift. So yea, I wouldn't go holding your breathe til all 80+ gifts arrive.