Honeyfund/zola

Welcome to WW! Honeyfunds aren't really encouraged here, but it's okay! If you don't register, people will give you cash

I don't have an opinion on honeyfunds, but I haven't seen guests use them enough to consider putting one together.

Just don’t register and people will gift cash or check.

So I had one and they do charge a tiny fee for using them. And of all my guests only really few of them used it.

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Why are they not encouraged "here"? I feel like I'm drinking in a Baptist Church.

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The main reason I've seen is most Honeyfund sites charge a fee for every donation!

Honeyfunds are a know your crowd thing. I personally wouldn’t do one because I don’t like a middleman taking a percentage of my gift. Also sometimes guests get upset when they find out they aren’t actually gifting you that experience rather just sending you money that goes into your bank account. So ask around to your friends or family and see if that would bother them. In my experience we got a ton of cash/checks without asking for it.

I have never used on or seen a honey fund so I have no idea how they actually work but to some what suggest an option would be to maybe notify your parents, close friends about it so that they can help spread the word for you, before your elopement obviously so that you can use the money for the excursions and such.

I would never suggest that you do not register or inform people and they will just know to give you cash because that doesn't always work. It wouldn't with my crowd for sure and the fact that you aren't having a wedding or a shower, people may not gift at all. Tell some folks so they know what to say if anyone asks.

View Quoted Comment They aren’t discouraged 🙄 I’m using honeyfund and you could always date it for before the wedding! Say “this is to help us have a wonderful experience in Greece!” and date it for a week before and take out the donations as you need them.

Honeyfund and similar sites do take percentage so that's something to consider. I feel like because you're not 20 something your guests won't be as concerned about you guys blowing it on nothing though, a lot of guests don't like not knowing where the money is going but I think most people will agree a couple in their 40s is oftentimes more responsible.

I've had several friends do this and I personally didn't see anything wrong with it since they also registered for other gifts. That being said, there will be a lot of people who say it is rude because it seems like you are straight up asking for money. I agree with Kelly, definitely know your audience. I've seen it posted on those same friend's site's people saying "if you don't have the money to pay for a honeymoon yourself then just don't take one". As long as you register for some gifts, I say go for it. Though, as others have mentioned, they do take a percentage of the gift which I wouldn't be a fan of.

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