Honeymoon Fund Etiquette

First, you shouldn't mention any registries on a wedding invite.

Second, people normally don't give physical gifts for weddings, that's more of a shower thing. If people do go look at your registry and there is nothing left, they'll get the picture and give you cash.

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Thats interesting about the invites. Everyone I have ever met has had their registries listed and I have read different etiquette articles suggesting that it's ok. Thank you for the advice!

I wouldn't. I would just have your small registry to please traditional gift givers, then everyone else will bring cash or check to the wedding in a card.

I wouldn't mention registries on any invites at all, they can go on your website. As stated above, if there aren't any gifts for guests to buy they will get the picture and give you cash without you having to ask for it.

Not common apparently, but at our wedding almost 2 weeks ago, many guests bought us gifts. Even gifts that weren't on our registry. Our card/gift table was stacked full of actual presents. So yes, people do still give physical gifts, as well as monetary gifts. I just wouldn't ask for money.

Yes, etiquette says don’t list registry info. Wait for people to ask.

Most people here don’t like online funds. I do (as a bride & guest). When people ask if you’re registered you can tell both both options and let them choose.

I would just put it on your online website along with your other registry info! It’s not really needed on the invitation if you are putting your wedding website on there.

I am not one of those follow the crowd types so this will probably not be a popular response but I saw it is a know your crowd thing. I personally have never been to a wedding where gifts and money were not given and I have also never received an invite to a wedding that didn't list where they were registered. Granted that was all before having a wedding website became such a thing.

Our family/crowd are very old school and very anti-wedding website. They want everything to be physically in their hand and all the info in 1 place, the invitation, so that is what we will do. We will have our invitations with inserts containing all the requested info.

It is your wedding, no two are alike. On here, honeymoon funds are frowned upon but if YOU think your guests will be fine with it, I see absolutely nothing wrong with listing it where ever you see fit.

I think adding a honeymoon fund is a great option in this case. Just add it to your website, and if you haven't ordered your invitations yet then I would take your registry information off the invites and just add that to the website as well. We're using Zola for our honeymoon fund and we've had good friends use funds on Honeyfund and the Knot as well.

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My family and friends re exactly the same way. I have not been to a wedding (and I have been to quite a few and been IN a few weddings as well) where this is widely accepted. I will probably not do the honeymoon fund just because I was on the fence from the beginning with that. But I do not see anything wrong with registries on the invites.

You should never ask for gifts. It doesn't matter what the occasion is. If guests want to know where you are registered, they'll ask or look online.

As far as honeyfunds or any other cash registry goes, there is absolutely no reason to have one. Guests know that monetary gifts are appreciated. The world over money is the normal gift to give.

We definitely didnt put our registries on the invites. To us that comes off as gift grabby. We actually aren't expecting gifts at all but we made them just in case people insist. Our details card leads our guests to our website where we did post our honeymoon fund if people want to give cash. We also have a small registry on pampered chef.