Honeymoon fund question

I think that's fine to do a honeymoon fund. if you're having it as an option amongst other things or even stand alone that's fine. there are people who don't even get a gift based off a registry either, it's just giving people options to better assist them in what you'd like.

I think a honeymoon fund is fine. If you already have your honeymoon planned (or will by your wedding or shower) you can also register for actual excursions on your honeymoon. We had friends who did that and it was a big hit.

Eh, I'm not sold on them. Every one of them takes a fee (that's how they make their money). We had a traditional registry of mostly upgrades because we lived together for years. People used that for the shower. For the wedding, everyone except 1 person gave us cash/a check in a card for the wedding. People know cash is a good gift. They don't need to be told and you don't need a 3rd party taking a processing fee.

View Quoted Comment If we do it it’ll be through the knot they don’t take any of the money. I made sure to look up a place that doesn’t take a fee.

View Quoted Comment I couldn’t agree with this more. I’m not a fan of asking for money as a wedding gift, and as a guest, I’m not paying a third party to give you my money.

View Quoted Comment From what I understand the knot doesn’t charge. If they do, then no I wouldn’t have one. I don’t think people should be charged for trying to give a gift.

View Quoted Comment They charge a 2.5% fee. You will not find a fund that doesn't take a processing fee. That is literally how they make money off of them. https://www.theknot.com/content/amphtml/cash-registry-the-newlywed-fund

View Quoted Comment That’s crazy! The post that I read said they don’t take any of the money. Definitely won’t be doing an online one then.

View Quoted Comment The Knot charges 2.5%. No one provides a service for free, otherwise they wouldn’t be in business.
https://www.theknot.com/content/best-honeymoon-registries

I would keep your registry small and hope people will gift money. I know honeyfunds are more accepted now but personally I can't get past the idea of asking guests for money. Good luck!

I think keeping your registry small is a good idea because most people will take the nudge of we don't need anything.

I like the idea of a honeymoon fund but I wouldn't dream of doing it. My mom, like yours, also think stuff like honeymoon funds, house funds or stuff of the short are great ideas. However, what stops me from thinking of doing it would be my other family members and FH's family. A lot of our guest list is family or family friends. It's still a little taboo (or some might say tacky) to do honeymoon funds, especially with older generations, who might think you're being selfish/greedy. I'd be so nervous offending someone. But, you know your guest better so if you feel that many won't be upset by it, I say go for it. Most will just bring cash anyway, especially if you have a smaller registry.

We also live together for a year and a half before we are getting married in September, so we have everything we could possibly need. We are only doing a honeymoon donation in lieu of gifts.


Word of advice: don’t set up a go fund me or a honeyfund. Those websites charge you a certain percentage of whatever you collect. My sister just got married, and most people just wrote a check or gave a gift card. Then the three or four people that donated online, my sister had to pay a certain percentage on such a small amount. It wasn’t worth it.

We're doing a small registry and honeymoon fund on Zola!

The fee is tiny for the convenience. We used a Honeyfund (and two small registries), and it was great! And 1/2 guests used it, 1/2 guests have us physical gifts. Way easier than worrying about cash.

I don't think it's an awful thing to do, but my preference would be to just let people get me a gift if they choose to do so, and if it's monetary to put it toward the honeymoon.