Honeymoon Fund vs. Registry

I dont personally like honeymoon funds, they take a percentage of the gifts and guests don't actually buy specific excursions or anything. The company gives you a lump sum of the money minus their percentage. Also some people on here find it rude, because you're specifically asking for money. I dont necessarily feel that way, but I dont like it for the reasons above. If you're set on having one, just put the info on the bridal shower invite and your wedding website, just like you would another registry. Or if people ask you directly where are you registered, just give them the link.

Honeyfunds are a terrible mismanagement of money. There is no reason to pay an anonymous middle man to collect money from your guests. People the world over know that money is a great gift. Just don't register, or have a tiny registry if someone offers to host a shower, people will get the idea.

If you have a very small registry or just no registry at all then people will get the hint that you just want money. They'll most likely give you cash without you having to direct them to some middle man that'll take a small portion of it.

Don't. Honeyfunds are tacky and it's rude to ask your guests to pay for your vacation. If you can't afford a honeymoon, postpone until you can. Better yet, don't register and your guests can choose to give you cash on their own. Then you can use it on whatever you want.

View Quoted Comment I agree that it’s rude to ask guests for money straight out but I disagree about your assessment of a honeymoon specific fund being a bad idea.

As a guest I would much rather contribute to a couple having a lovely vacation, knowing it is something they want. Knowing that my gift may have enabled them to indulge more and book massages and buy the expensive champagne while otherwise absent these gifts, they might have been more frugal with a less luxurious vacation.

I do not plan on having a wedding registry. I'm over 40 and have lived in this house for almost 15 years. I have at least 3 yard sales worth of junk here. I don't need another anything!!!

Therefore, my plan is for my mom and MOH to discreetly let people know we don't have a registry but they can contribute towards the honeymoon if they want. I only plan to tell guests if they ask.

Many people like to purchase a gift. I honestly don't understand why it's ok for people to buy an unwanted toaster. However, some say it's rude to request that same $20 go towards the honeymoon instead which we will use.

If you don’t register people generally will just give you cash. There are always people who will get or make you a physical gift anyway but having a honeymoon fund wouldn’t change that. And from what I’ve seen online a lot of people really hate the Honeyfunds.