Honeymoon Fund: When do people usually contribute?

I think this one just depends on your crowd I’m doing a honeymoon fun but to be honest with you I expect a lot of people to check the box that they’re going to bring their own check and receive checks and cards that day they will of just vouched for an amount or activity basically.

Can you plan a mini-moon for after the wedding & an official honeymoon later? We mostly got gifts or Honeyfund contributions 1-2 weeks before our event (and about 1/2 the day of). Of the guests who gave us something 1/2 gave money and 1/2 gave an gift item.

I feel like that would be around a bridal shower if you have one. That’s usually when registry items are purchased.

If I was attending a wedding I wouldn't do a honeymoon fund. I would give you a card with money in it the night of the wedding.

When we’ve contributed to honeymoon funds as guests we did so just before the wedding. I would say a week or so or even a few days before. We always gift cash or honeymoon fund and because it’s so easy and doesn’t require shopping etc we do it fairly close to the date.

When I gave honeymoon contributions (before I realized I wasn’t actually paying for the activity I was contributing towards 😰), I did it like any other wedding gift, so basically at the wedding/day of. I wouldn’t anticipate that type of cash gift in advance.

I’ve never given to a honeymoon fund- always just brought a card with money to the wedding. If I was going to give to one though, it would be the day of the wedding or maybe a day or two before.

If I was planning to give you a cash gift, I would bring it to you in the form of cash in a card on the day of the wedding because I don't donate to honeymoon funds

This is why honeymoon funds are silly. You don't actually get the money for a trip that is (traditionally...ours was delayed) right after the wedding until the day or two prior to the trip, which obviously isn't enough time to plan. I wouldn't count on any honeymoon fund contributions to pay for your trip. Just plan the trip that you can afford and any money that is gifted is just a bonus.

We don't contribute to honeyfunds ever. If the couple doesn't have a gift registry, we bring cash in our card.

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Thank you for your feedback.

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I think we should plan for whatever we can afford, because it's almost impossible to plan counting on other's contributions.

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Thank you. We're not having one.

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Thanks for the info.

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Ok thank you for your feedback

View Quoted Comment Are you in a position to pay for your honeymoon regardless or are you going to plan based on the results of the fund?

To be completely honest in my area wedding gifts are not incredibly common some people do them but most people don’t because they spend a lot of money On attire and travel to come to your wedding so we’re moreso expecting to get a bunch of thank you notes after the fact

We definitely are going to follow the plan of either waiting for the honeymoon or planning the honeymoon that we can afford and viewing it as “reimbursement” if you will LOL, but honestly I intend to have 5-10 days before an “immediate” honeymoon because I want to relax and recover and then file social security paperwork and marriage license before we leave so everything is being processed asap

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Thank you so much. I think that's a great idea. I'm not seeing any of the guests from my husband's side until the day before the wedding, because we live in different countries and it'll be too little time to plan anything if they decide to give us the money whenever they see us.

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Absolutely!

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I see. We have 2 cultures in play here. My family is Dominican, and they all contributed towards the wedding as soon as I told them about it, because my husband and I have a completely furnished house and we don't need any physical gifts.

My husband's family is American and I don't really know how things work for them. We booked a place where to stay for our honeymoon, but I think paying for everything else and seeing it as a reimbursement in case they decide to contribute is the best call.

Thank you so much for the idea.

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Thank you for the heads up

View Quoted Comment I hear you on culture thing

the problem with America is is so many cultures that often traditions get lost and things like this vary by family...

has as anyone in his family gotten married in the last few years? Maybe if they have a good relationship he could discreetly inquire as to what went down for them and maybe get a clearer picture.

I would say that for Americans it is very frequent to literally give the gift the day off and I know several people that think that it’s fine to send a gift even like a week or two after the wedding.